Part 2 Section C & D
Unaddressed mental illness in the black community
Definition of Child Abuse: when the punishment does not fit the crime.
Example. Susie receives a ‘black eye’ because she asked for a ‘cookie’.
Definition of beating: a punishment or assault in which the victim is hit repeatedly:
Definition of hit: bring one’s hand or a tool or weapon into contact with (someone or something) quickly and forcefully: strike, slap, smack, spank, cuff, … more
• cause harm or distress to:
• an instance of striking or being struck: blow, thump, punch, knock, bang
• an instance of striking the target aimed at:
Definition of repeatedly: over and over again; constantly: synonyms: frequently, often, again and again, over and over (again), time and (time) again,
Definition of punishment:1. the infliction or imposition of a penalty as retribution for an offense: “crime demands just punishment” synonyms: penalizing, punishing, disciplining, retribution, retributive justice,
Definition of assault: 1. a violent physical or verbal attackb
2. 2 law a : a threat or attempt to inflict offensive physical contact or bodily harm on a that puts the person in immediate danger of or in apprehension of such harm or contact — compare battery 1bb : rape 2
Instigators of child abuse in the black community
E Parental drug use
Cultural, Tradition, and Acceptance
It is widely accepted in the black community that children are to be seen and not heard. Children are to be beat and told not to cry. Children are to be disciplined swift, hard, and quickly. Why is this?
1. We are told that this comes from slavery
2. We are told that what the slaves went through is far worse than anything now so we have nothing to cry about
3. We are told if I don’t beat you now the police will do it later so it’s a necessary evil that I get you straight now
4. It’s what is expected and if you don’t beat your kids then you are ‘acting white’
5. Mental illness is not recognized, thought about or even an option. If the child is suffering from an undiagnosed mental illness and the parent decides to beat the child to make him act right, then this is a recipe for certain disaster
6. It’s not just physical abuse on black children. Mental, verbal, and spiritual abuse comes with it.
7. After the abuse gets out of hand and a parent is in jail the first words out of their mouth is “I didn’t think I was doing anything wrong.” or “I was just doing what was done to me. I didn’t know anything else.”
Just because it was done to you doesn’t make it right. For those of you who think you turned out fine I’m here to tell you that you didn’t. You are continuing and reinforcing hurt and harm to innocent children all in the name of tradition.
These following statements are culturally accepted in the black community and should not be:
1. I got beat too when I was a kid.
What is the definition of beat? Black eyes? Blood drawn? Broken bones? Death? Is this kind of beating on a child okay with you?
2. Those bruises will heal.
This is cruel.
3. You shouldn’t have done it.
Maybe nothing was done! Maybe the child simply asked for school supplies.
4. They had to beat you otherwise you won’t learn.
Learn what? How to duck and dodge? How to take it like a G? How to apply make up for black eyes?
5. That’s the only way black kids learn is through a beating.
This comes straight from slavery out of the slave master’s mouth and he’s still talking in 2017. Shut the slave master up by not repeating these words.
6. So what. Grow up.
This is just hurtful, awful, and unless you know the situation you need to shut up.
7. Stop the whining and toughen up you’re too soft and sensitive.
Really? Only an insensitive self serving jerk would make an awful statement such as this to a child that’s been beaten, raped and possibly tied up in a basement.
8. Everybody gets hit why should you be any different.
Hit? This statement is an awful thing to say to anybody. Not all children need to be hit.
9. (my all time favorite) If they didn’t love you they wouldn’t beat you.
Again. Define the meaning of beat. Its okay for a child to be taken to a hospital with internal injuries from a beating. Its okay for a child to die from internal injuries to the heart or lungs because she wet the bed? This is done out of love?
10. Be good and act right and you won’t get beat. Now shut up and get out of my face.
Just cruel, evil, disrespectful, awful, and anybody who says this to a child needs a head check and deserves the worst of every aspect in their life.
11. I’m not here to be my child’s friend. I’m here to be a parent!
Then be a parent! A real parent strives to improve the child not break him down to the point where he’s hanging himself in a closet. A parent and an abuser are two different things. A parent finds ways to work through the situation without placing hands on the child in a bullish disrespectful manner.
12. I didn’t know I was doing anything wrong.
Really? You are in a court room with a lawyer, judge, jury, court tv cameras and DFCS is at the table across from you. And you seriously didn’t know beating a child senseless would lead to this?
14. Fear equals respect. I have to instill fear in my child otherwise he/she won’t respect me.
No fear equals hate. Your child hates you and will eventually run away and rightfully so. Whoever told you that lie should be charged right along with you for being stupid enough to make a statement such as this.
15. I got beat when I was a child and I turned out fine.
No you didn’t. You continued the abuse on to your child and grandchild and at some point this abuse will backfire badly. You may not get the immediate effects but your children will.
The above statements are heard every single day by several black children of parents who either just don’t know any better or just don’t care.
If a child has a mental condition such as Asperger’s, or some other autism, and the parent does not recognize the signs that the child may have a problem, then the child hears one or more of these statements above.
“He’s just bad! He’s a bad child!”
No child is bad. A behavioral problem in a child is due to a few factors.
1. Environment such as abuse.
2. A mental disorder that has gone unchecked
3. A perfectly normal child responding badly to a parent who is not in his or her right mind
4. Outside stress not coming from within the house.
It should not be acceptable in any community to “Haze” a child as if its a right of passage to be black. Parents who whip, beat and stomp their children in the name of love are not showing love. They teach the child mistrust and how to hate. Why and how are the two being confused?