Behind The Curtain – Spiritual Abuse in the Black Church

Part 4

The Black Church makes most of their money by promoting three major fears:

Fear of going to hell

Fear of death

Fear of having no money

 

The Fear of God not loving you is promoted as you doing something wrong. Whatever you did wrong will result in God leaving you to die broke and go to hell. Selling the notion of fear of failure in God’s eyes generates revenue and they have no problem raking in the profits.

If someone is still sitting in the pew unconvinced then the fear must be stepped up to fear of public humiliation in front of the globe which is to take place on judgement day after Gabrielle blows the horn, trumpet or whatever wind instrument he has while Jesus returns. The idea that you will be ousted in front of millions of people should be enough to make you tithe.

Some Black churches that present themselves as cults do the following

The more members you have the more tithes you should receive theoretically. Black churches measure success on 2 things:

1. How big the physical building is
2. How many members are in the church

Like a business they must have a retention crew. They want people to come back and tithe money so something must be offered other than the love of Jesus.

The cult church starts off as a dream church to the victim.

1. They offer the love of Jesus and the grace of God
2. They have an appealing church that’s easy on the eyes
3. The pastor himself will tell you he’s hands on and doesn’t send minions to speak for him. Always accessible. Call or come by anytime.
4. There’s always an assistant pastor that reinforces the pastors intentions as a way of keeping you engaged until they can find a way to hook you in
5. The pastor spotlights you for weeks in front of the church so you really feel special
6. (emotional manipulation begins) They offer to pay all your bills up front and say you don’t have to join.

After you join they say they will take you through classes to get back on your feet if you do what they say.

After you start doing what they say its starts getting weird.

If you address the weirdness they convince you that God delivered them to you as a way of saving you from the awful situation you were in before.

Once you get settled into the brainwashing then they start pouring Bible verses on to you.

To keep you hooked they offer you free food once during the week and once on the weekend.

You will be required to tithe a certain amount to offset what they paid for you.

Here’s the catch!

If at any time you say you want to leave the cult they make you pay everything back that they paid for you and the niceness turns to nastiness.

If you get out alive you will be one of the lucky ones.

In return for their ‘hospitality’ to you, your soul, and your family, you must agree to the following activities.

1. Recruit new members just like a pyramid scheme
2. You must come to church so many Sundays in a row to fulfill the obligation
3. You must tithe so much money a week to offset the initial ‘hospitality’. The more you give the more you love Jesus
4. You must identify and call out ‘non-believers’ or ‘fakers’ in the church even if its their first time visiting. If they are not a good fit in the church the pastor must know so he can redirect them to another church
5. You are required to go on retreats with the church. This way the pastor can isolate you and concrete his ideas in your head with reinforcements who are the other church members
6. You are conditioned and required to tell the pastor if any of the other church members are going against the grain.

Part 3 Fear

The message is that God will be angry with you for some reason. You don’t know the reason and will never know the reason. All you know is that God will be angry with you.

I had an ex boyfriend like this once. He was a sociopath. He kept telling me I was doing things wrong but wouldn’t tell me what. I was just supposed to figure it out and not do it again.

This is the same concept. This is a battle you can’t possibly win and the Preacher preaches it so that you think you can just by pleasing God and figuring out what you did wrong.

But you don’t know what to please him with.

This is a mind game meant to produce fear in somebody. God does not promote this. The pastor does. After fear is established by the Pastor then the mind control game begins!

Fear of Hell

Hel was a Norse Goddess who was in charge of taking souls to the underworld. Sheol is the Hebrew underworld where your soul goes through a spiritual purification to prepare you to meet God as a pure soul. Neither one includes any punishment.

Sheol is never spoken about in any black church because nobody knows what it is including the pastor. The congregation certainly doesn’t know and has never heard of it.

But if you want to control the masses you combine these two religions, then add in punishment. Then put a picture of a half goat half man with horns. Then draw another picture of him holding a pitchfork. Then show it to people who already don’t know what they did wrong to upset God, and tell them that this is what’s coming for you if you don’t get right. Then you have people in your control instantly.

The above is the basis for spiritual abuse.

Hell is mentioned 15 times in the Bible. All in the new testament. The concept of hell is not found anywhere in the old testament.

Hmmmmm. Didn’t King James revise the Bible in the 1600’s? Wasn’t the concept of hell distributed in the 1500’s? And now it’s in the King James version with the 1600’s philosophy of hell?

Hell is only mentioned in these 15 verses in the Bible.

Matthew 5:22
But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to a brother or sister, ‘Raca,’ is answerable to the court. And anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.

Matthew 5:29
If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.

Matthew 5:30
And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.

Matthew 10:28
Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather, be afraid of the One who can destroy both soul and body in hell.

Matthew 18:9
And if your eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fire of hell.

Matthew 23:15
“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You travel over land and sea to win a single convert, and when you have succeeded, you make them twice as much a child of hell as you are.

Matthew 23:33
“You snakes! You brood of vipers! How will you escape being condemned to hell?

Mark 9:43
If your hand causes you to stumble, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life maimed than with two hands to go into hell, where the fire never goes out.

Mark 9:45
And if your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life crippled than to have two feet and be thrown into hell.

Mark 9:47
And if your eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into hell,

Luke 12:5
But I will show you whom you should fear: Fear him who, after your body has been killed, has authority to throw you into hell. Yes, I tell you, fear him.

Acts 6:1
In those days when the number of disciples was increasing, the Hellenistic Jews (A Jewish person that combined Judaism with Greek Culture) among them complained against the Hebraic Jews because their widows were being overlooked in the daily distribution of food.

Acts 9:29
He talked and debated with the Hellenistic Jews Jews (A Jewish person that combined Judaism with Greek Culture) , but they tried to kill him.

James 3:6
The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.

2 Peter 2:4
For if God did not spare angels when they sinned, but sent them to hell, putting them in chains of darkness to be held for judgment;

Under this philosophy everybody who did anything evil before the new testament was written didn’t have a hell to go to? Where did the go? With the start of the new testament now people can go to hell without a problem. Like Motel 6- there’s enough space!

Signs of spiritual abuse through fear:

1. Spiritual abuse is telling your members that you can only think what God thinks and only answer in Bible verses

Example:

Person A. Hey can you pass me the salt?

Person B. The children of Isreal had no salt! They only had the wilderness! If they had no luxuries why are you entitled to them!

Person A. Just hand me the salt and stop trippin!!

2. Shaming and Blaming: shaming someone over body parts or things that happen to humans just because you are human and using the Bible to justify the judgmental critism is another form of spiritual abuse.

Example:

Person A. I have a headache

Person B. That’s because you don’t love Jesus! You didn’t pray enough! You let Satan in that’s your punishment! If you do what the Lord say you won’t have issues like that!

3. Spiritual Manipulation is Stating that the Lord or God spoke to you:

Person A. The Lord just spoke to me and said that you were not blessed because of your lack of faith.

Person B. Shut up fool!

Person A. That’s why you weren’t blessed because of your attitude

Person B. (Gets up and leaves)

4. Calling somebody a fool- Matthew 5:22But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to a brother or sister, ‘Raca,’ is answerable to the court. And anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.

This verse is taken waaay too seriously in the Bible Belt. If you are heard calling someone a “fool” in the southern united states black people will literally run away from you for fear of being struck by lightning.

5. Judgmental Christians

Message to those who memorize Bible verses or copy and paste Bible verses on facebook thinking it makes them more of a Christian.

Anybody can copy and paste Bible verses. All you need is Biblegateway.com and if you know how to copy and paste then you can do it.

Atheist, Buddist, Muslims, Confusionist, and anybody from any background can copy and paste a Bible verse. This does not make you more of a Christian. It just makes you computer literate.

I can’t answer a question without quoting a Bible verse

Just because you memorized the Bible does not make you a Christian. Anybody can memorize Bible verses and quote them back.

This is the most blatant form of hiding behind a Bible instead of facing reality and giving real facts. People who hide behind the bible like this cannot give a personal solid opinion and sit on the front pew of the church waiting to press their ideas and values on to you and you’re just supposed to take it because they are closer to God. Why are they closer to God?

Because they took time to memorize a Bible.

6. The most common spiritual abuse is promoting the fear of falling out of favor with the pastor as a means to instill more fear into church members. This circle of stupidity works because too many black people worship the pastor instead of who their supposed to be worshipping with is Jesus Christ.

This brainwashing technique is one of many that Jim Jones and David Kuresh used to gain followers and then lead them to their deaths.

Fear of Death

“God woke me up this morning! Somebody didn’t get up!”

This is the most used manipulative phrase in the black Church.

It is meant to empower yourself and reassure yourself that you are loved and worthy in God’s eyes to be blessed with another day to please him.

This fear based, misconstrued, convoluted, and flat out stupid if you dissect the whole sentence, meaning and concept.

1. God woke me up this morning:
Atheist, Buddhist, Muslims, Taoists, Krishna Worshipers, and 6 billion other people woke up too. So did livestock, fish, and household pets. This statement is selfish as if God only woke you up and nobody else and you were the only one on God’s mind and nobody except for you was worthy of waking up.

It holds a second stupid meaning:
If the whole point of church is to prepare to go to heaven and be with God then if he didn’t wake you up you should be happy. You’re with him. Right? If that is the final goal and you’ve reached it then what is all the fear about.

Under this statement the dead people win. You woke up so you lose. You’re not with God! The dead people are!

2. Somebody didn’t get up!
Well I had relatives die back in the 1970’s and 1980’s. They didn’t get up. I had relatives die in 2001, 2008, 2013 and 2017. They didn’t get up either. I guess God just hates them.

They’ve been punished justly under this statement.

This is also selfish. This implies that you and only you were worthy of getting up while others just lost out.

I guess that little girl who was battling cancer in the hospital who died this morning just wasn’t worthy. But YOU were!!

I guess that couple who died in the car crash last night just wasn’t worthy. But YOU were!!!

I guess the baby that was still born to that family just wasn’t worth it. But YOU were!!!

I guess that sweet little old lady on oxygen who went into cardiac arrest this morning just wasn’t worth it. But YOU were!!!

I guess you should feel good that others misfortune of death wasn’t bestowed on you. Kudos!!! You’re worthy. Too bad for those who were battling some sort of illness or lost their lives in a situation that was not in their control.

You won and they didn’t.

This kind of fear based statement and the fear of death is what drives the tithes for the old people in the church. It’s subliminally mentioned that if you tithe enough you won’t die. And if you wake up then you did right yesterday and you have another chance today. If you do right today then God will reward you with a tomorrow.

This makes sense to who!!!!

Logic Manipulation

Logically Speaking:

If anybody in a black church asks logical questions he or she is quickly put in check if not punished and in some cases asked to leave the church completely.

Why?

Because he or she is trying to contaminate the congregation against God’s word.

“You are not to question the Bible you are to take it as it is! Questioning the Bible means you are questioning God! If you question God you go to hell!”

Even if the question makes sense you’re not supposed to ask you are supposed to dismiss the logical question out of the fear that you will go to hell for being logical.

This makes sense to who???!!!

It is ridiculous how some people act in the church over a question. Why is it so hard just to answer it!

Question:
If Cain, Abel and Eve were the only ones left on earth after Abel was killed then where did Cain find his wife and how did Nod become a whole city? Cain had a father in law. Who was he? If he married his sister as suggested then where did she get a whole city full of people?

Question:
If the commandment says thalt shall not commit adultery and proverbs says thalt shall not take unto you a harlot then why did the Lord command Hosea to take a harlot as a wife? The Lord has just commanded Hosea to send himself to hell.

Question:

Soddom and Gamorrah was either hit by a meteor shower or a volcano eruption. Either way Lot escaped with his daughters to a cave and things went sideways. Archeologist have proven that the visible city of Zoar was 100 feet away unaffected by the events. There were people, food, housing, and warmth in the city and they did take in refugees from Soddom and Gamorrah.

Why did Lot and his daughters not go there? Did they have an alternative intentions?

Question:
Why does Matthew 1:23 call Jesus Immanuel?“The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel” (which means “God with us”). And the rest of the verses call him Jesus? Why does he have two names?

Question
Leviticus 21:20. Why does God hate the handicapped?

16 Then the Lord said to Moses, 17 “Say to Aaron, ‘None of your children or their children who has something wrong with his body should go near to give the bread as a gift to his God. 18 For no one whose body is not perfect should come near, no blind man, or man who cannot walk, or one with a marked face, or a bad arm or leg, 19 or a man who has a broken foot or hand, 20 or a man with a crooked upper back from birth, or a very little man, or one who has a bad eye or skin trouble or sores, or one whose sex parts have been crushed. 21 No man among the children of Aaron the religious leader, who has something wrong with his body, should come near to give the Lord’s gifts by fire. He should not come near to give the bread of his God, because he has something wrong with him. 22 He may eat the bread of his God, both of the most holy and of the holy. 23 But he should not come near the curtain or the altar, because he has something wrong with him, and so he may not sin against My holy places. For I am the Lord Who makes them holy.’”

Question: If he is the Lord who makes them holy then why not heal them instead of telling them they can’t come near him?

I just asked a bunch of logical questions and I’ve not been struck by lightning.

Bible Verse Manipulation

Twisting Bible verses happens in all churches. However, the black church takes it to a limit that God couldn’t even imagine!

Lets start first with normal manipulative phrases not in the Bible

1. Either you believe or you don’t!
This phrase is meant to put you in some kind of control because you are out of control with logical statements and questions and you’re not showing enough fear and religious oppression. You keep showing independence and making sense. You keep questioning their beliefs and going against everything they’ve been taught therefore they have to defend their belief by attacking you because they’ve run out of options.

2. You just don’t want to do what the Lord says!
This is another phrase meant to put you in check. You have challenged their ideas with actual Bible scriptures which they have twisted or Bible verses that don’t exist, yet, they believe it’s in the Bible.

None of these phrases are in the Bible no matter how hard you try to twist them
Cleanliness is next to Godliness is not in the Bible

God don’t like ugly is not in the Bible

Blessed and Highly favored is not in the Bible

Worrying is a sin is not in the Bible stated in that word sequence. That statement has been taken out of context by Bible Twisters

3. I’ve been called by the Lord/I’m a servant of the Lord

No you are not. The Lord didn’t appoint any servants and least of all you. This is a manipulative phrase used to try and control others by using Jesus name or gaining some sort of a false status. Anyone saying this is mentally skewed, off the mark, twisted and anyone who gets hooked in their trap will be very very sorry.

Twisting Bible Verses is done at every service

Luke 4 Man cannot live by bread alone
3 The devil said to Him, “If You are the Son of God, tell this stone to be made into bread.” 4 Jesus said to him, “It is written, ‘Man is not to live by bread alone.’”

The following interpretations have been made from the pulpit

1. Man has to have more than one woman because the bread represent a woman
2. Man has to have wine or other addictions because bread is dry
3. This does not apply to women only men and men must have more material things than women

Proverbs 13:24He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

This does not mean to beat your child. This means to steer the child in the right direction and give him/her moral values to live by. This has been twisted around to inflict violence on the innocents. The black church takes this verse to levels.

There is a line between a church goer, a bible study student, and a fanatic who lives in an alternate reality created by themselves.

These black churches promote a fantasy world that is hard to and does not exist. Promoting fear, twisting Bible verses, and traditional gimmicks to increase tithes is wrong.

The black church has figured out how to retain people by manipulating fears and emotions with promises that can never be backed up or proven.

A lot of black people are leaving the church because of these false doctrines that are being taught. The ones who have stayed in the church cannot be reasoned with or spoken to in any normal manner to get them to understand that they are not being saved. They are being used!

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August 17, 2017 · 6:00 am

Behind The Curtain part 4 – Religious Manipulation in the Black Church

Addressing mental illness in the black church

1. Tithe Manipulation
2. Emotional and Fear Manipulation
3. Logic Manipulation
4. Bible Verse Manipulation

Tithe Manipulation

The human brain.

The human brain processes whatever information it’s given. If it’s not given complete information then it will process incomplete information. Most Christians do not read the Bible. As a result they are given partial information from the pulpit. This partial information is processed incorrectly and false beliefs are born and then reinforced.

Tithes

Churches teach and practice tithing but the black church takes it to limits. This is what is being preached from the pulpit.

1. God will not bless you unless you tithe money.
2. The more money you tithe the more God will bless you.
3. You will get a nice return on your investment if you tithe money.
4. If you don’t tithe then you are robbing God of money that is due him. (misuse of Malachi)
5. Not tithing is turning your back on God. If you turn your back on him he will turn his back on you.
6. Not tithing is showing disrespect or un-appreciativeness of what God has done for you.

Tricks and bullying tactics to make people tithe in church. None of this is made up.

1. The pastor or whoever has the microphone waves $50 and $100 bills in the air stating that he/she will not miss out of their blessings because they didn’t tithe. Then they go right to the back room and take the tithe back so they can go to Red Lobster after church.

2. They lock the doors to the church and demand money from members in the pews.

3. They take the microphone and demand that 10 people give $25 right now. Then the auction goes up to $30 and so on.

4. They demand W-2’s or check stubs to be presented to the church finance committee to make sure that you are giving God his due of 10% of your paycheck. If you fall short you are sent a bill from the church.

5. If you don’t have a job then you are expected to borrow the money from a relative to keep up with the tithing and receive blessings. One of the blessings is that you will get a job if you tithe.

6. They have ATM’s at the entrance of the church in case you forgot your money.

7. They have a little child lead the prayer for tithes and have the child do a dance or cry or something so people will give more.

8. They present a ‘Love Offering’. This is not even a tithe. This is just extra money given to the pastor because you love him so much.

9. They post in the back of the church bulletin the top 50 tithers. If your name is not on it then you are not tithing enough.

10. They have paypal just in case you go on vacation and cannot make it to church.

11. They have a title lending office inside the church so you can pawn your car titles in lieu of tithes. When you can’t get your title back they sell the car and viola! You have paid your tithes for that week.

12. If you don’t plan on tithing then don’t come to church at all.

The pastor says “The Bible says to tithe and your blessings will overflow” He forgets to say that in accordance with the Bible you must tithe in meats, oils, grains and fruit and you must take it to a Levite Priest so he can eat and distribute to the less fortunate who have no land to farm.

What the Bible says about Tithes

There was a money system in place all through the Bible starting in Genesis through Revelation. Isaac used shekels to buy land. Hosea used shekels and silver to buy back his adulterous wife. Harlots were purchased left and right with silver and gold coins and shekels. Jesus himself went WWE in the temple where money changers were acting up. It was the talk of the town!

Matthew 21:12 – Jesus entered the temple courts and drove out all who were buying and selling there. He overturned the tables of the money changers and the benches of those selling doves.

I really think the selling of the doves is what got it

John 2:15 – 15 So he made a whip out of cords, and drove all from the temple courts, both sheep and cattle; he scattered the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables.

So while the doves and other things were being sold Jesus had enough time to make a whip out of cords with the sole intent of tearing up the temple. Taking time to make a whip and is known in court as a Pre-Meditated crime.

And apparently they were so focused on selling doves that nobody saw Jesus in the corner making a whip out of cords! Whose cords? We don’t know. What we do know is that Jesus did not bring the cords with him otherwise they’d already be made.

I’m not going to ask how he could make wine out of water but had to physically take some cords and make a whip.

 

Mark 11:15 – On reaching Jerusalem, Jesus entered the temple courts and began driving out those who were buying and selling there. He overturned the tables of the money changers and the benches of those selling doves

Now I can understand the money changers being thrown out but them sheep and cattle were innocent. They weren’t selling anything. They were innocent bystanders. Jesus apparently went on a rampage in the temple like nobody’s business if live stock was affected.

And

Matthew 27:3 – When Judas, who had betrayed him, saw that Jesus was condemned, he was seized with remorse and returned the thirty pieces of silver to the chief priests and the elders.

How could Judas hand over pieces of silver or bags of coins if coins did not exist and no money system was in place?

**There was always a money system in place and it was never used for tithes**

The right way to tithe

Deuteronomy 14:28
At the end of every three years, bring all the tithes of that year’s produce and store it in your towns,

Numbers 18:26
“Speak to the Levites and say to them: ‘When you receive from the Israelites the tithe I give you as your inheritance, you must present a tenth of that tithe as the Lord’s offering.

Not 10%

The right way to tithe
1. You are supposed to be tithing every 3 years according to the Bible
2. The tithes are supposed to go to a Levite Priest which we don’t have anymore
3. It does not say 10% . It says a 10th.

10% and a 10th are two totally different things

a. A 10th means if you have 10 cows you give your 10th cow. If you have 9 cows you do not tithe until you have 10.

If you have 20 cows you give 2 cows. If you have 19 cows you give 1 cow because you don’t have 20. To tithe biblically you simply count to 10 and give the 10th one.

b. 10% is something totally different. I you have 9 cows and tithe 10% of 9 cows the theoretically you must tithe .09% of a cow.

If you have 4 cows and tithe 10% of the 4 cows then theoretically you tithe .04% of a cow.

That makes no sense.

4. They had a coin system of shekels, gold and silver, however, money was not accepted as tithes for God. Meat and grains for the Levite priests were the only requirement because tithes were meant to be eaten. You cannot eat coins and shekels.

1. The Levites had to eat and

2. The Levites distributed the food and grain tithes to those who had no land to grow food.

3. Tithes were to be eaten. Digested. Cooked and prepared. Burned. You can’t do all of that with money. Tithes were burnt offerings such as animals or grains for food.

Tithes were to help the community. It is not supposed to go to the priest or the pastor for Crystal ceilings, ivory bathtubs, solid gold counter tops and other nonsense.

Biblical times were hard for folks and people truly needed help feeding themselves.
None of these biblical verses mention money as a means of Tithing to the Levite Priests. Tithes are to be eaten. You cannot or should not eat money.

The following Bible verses prove that money should never be used for tithes in any church.

Deuteronomy 26:12
When you have finished setting aside a tenth of all your produce in the third year, the year of the tithe, you shall give it to the Levite, the foreigner, the fatherless and the widow, so that they may eat in your towns and be satisfied.

1 Samuel 8:15
He will take a tenth of your grain and of your vintage and give it to his officials and attendants.

Matthew 23:23
“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of your spices—mint, dill and cumin. But you have neglected the more important matters of the law—justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced the latter, without neglecting the former.

Luke 11:42
“Woe to you Pharisees, because you give God a tenth of your mint, rue and all other kinds of garden herbs, but you neglect justice and the love of God. You should have practiced the latter without leaving the former undone.

Leviticus 27:30
A tithe of everything from the land, whether grain from the soil or fruit from the trees, belongs to the Lord; it is holy to the Lord.

2 Chronicles 31:5
As soon as the order went out, the Israelites generously gave the firstfruits of their grain, new wine, olive oil and honey and all that the fields produced. They brought a great amount, a tithe of everything.

Nehemiah 13:12
All Judah brought the tithes of grain, new wine and olive oil into the storerooms.

All of these verses mention tithing in grain, meats, oils, wine, and fruits. No money.

Malachi-

The heated tithing debate.

He never tithed in money.

He tithed in food for the Levite priests.

Malachi 3:8-10

“Will a mere mortal rob God? Yet you rob me. “But you ask, ‘How are we robbing you?’ “In tithes and offerings. You are under a curse—your whole nation—because you are robbing me. Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this,” says the Lord Almighty, “and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that there will not be room enough to store it.

This was referring to food. Not money.

Performances in the Pulpit

The need for performance and showboat praising in the black church comes straight from Africa. If the Preacher is not jumping around, yelling in the microphone, gasping for air, falling out on the stage, and basically putting on a vaudeville show then as far as they are concerned they didn’t have good church.

Feeling guilty about tithing is a part of church. If you feel worse when you left than when you entered then the mission has been accomplished.

Africans Vs Black Americans in Worship

What is the difference?

Not much.

The apple didn’t fall to far from the tree on this one when it comes to singing, praising, and truly going overboard with proving to everybody else in the village how much you love your deity! This running around the church, screaming, shouting, dancing, playing music at ear splitting levels and hollering on key comes straight from Africa and no where else.

This ‘hard worshipping’ came with the Africans through the boat on the slave trade. As soon as they had the chance to praise their God and beg for release from bondage they praised the same way they did in Africa. That style of praise continued through and after slavery and is still going on in 2017. Only its worse.

Like the old colored folks used to say to those who took it to levels like this:

“It don’t even take all that! What are they trying to prove!”

White Churches

White Churches do not stress tithing half as much as Black Churches do. Nor to White Churches have the cartwheels, summer saults, double handsprings, and other indoor Olympic acts in the pulpit to get people to hoop holler and respond.

The wildest I’ve ever seen a white church get is handing tambourines out at a revival and do a little dance in the aisle.

White Churches do not need to put on a “look at me” act to get a reaction of a holy ghost or holy dance.

Holy rolling and holy dancing comes straight from Africa. The apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree with black Americans over here.

Corinthians

6 But this I say: He who soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly, and he who soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully.
7 As every man purposeth in his heart, so let him give, not grudgingly or out of compulsion; for God loveth the cheerful giver.

This verse is the most quoted verse during money tithes and offerings. This verse is taken out of context in the church. If you continue reading to verse 9 it says:

9 As it is written: “He hath dispersed abroad, he hath given to the poor; his righteousness remaineth for ever.”

The cheerful giver verse is written for giving to the poor. Not giving tot he pastor who keeps it all.

“Well the church has to keep the lights on and it takes money to run a church! If we’re not supposed to give money what are we supposed to do!?”

If the church is truly running as a non profit and they need money to pay the bills why can’t they do this:

Post all bills up in the lobby for the month and members go to the power station, or the water company or whatever the bill says and put the money directly on the bill instead of putting it in the floating basket. This way the bills will be paid and if there’s a credit on the account the church won’t ever have to worry about the lights going out.

If each member donates $1 or $2 to each bill it will be paid in no time.

“Well the pastor has to get paid! He’s working!”

Working on the Sabbath? Working on Sunday? Oh! For SHAME!

There is a strong belief among Black Christians that God wants us all to follow Moses law and not work on the Sabbath or Sunday.

But its okay for the Pastor to do it. Incidentally Jesus worked on the Sabbath too. If I read this correctly he was questioned harshly for doing just that. He talked his way out of it.

Luke 13:14
But the ruler of the synagogue answered with indignation, because Jesus had healed on the Sabbath day, and said unto the people, “There are six days in which men ought to work; in them therefore come and be healed, and not on the Sabbath day.”

Sabbath

Sabbath is a Hebrew word for Saturday. So anyone working on Saturday is actually breaking the Sabbath.

Most Christians don’t read the Bible therefore they don’t know this.

What have we learned about Tithing?

  1. Do it every 3 years and not every Sunday
  2. It must be edible
  3. There must be a Levite priest present to hand the tithes to
  4. The editable tithes are to be given to the poor and homeless
  5. If your church insists on making you tithe do it the right way and bring a cow or some grains to the altar on Sunday at church. Then politely ask your pastor what to do with the livestock.

Do yall see a problem here?

 

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August 14, 2017 · 6:00 am

Behind The Curtain Part 3 – The Black Church Promoting Unhealthy Marriages

Unaddressed Mental Illness In The Black Community

The black church encourages couples staying together no matter what! Mental illness is not even a thought or considered because all you have to do it pray it away. Black churches do not have the proper counseling in place to deal with couples who may be facing this type of brain disease.

Marriage Counseling

The Bride or Wife – Has a brain chemical imbalance which contributes to an Anti-Social Personality Disorder. She is also manic depressant/bi-polar. She shows a display of histrionics along with disregard for right and wrong, pathological lying, crossing boundaries, and being abusive physically and verbally. Drama Queen.

The Groom or husband– Suffers from mental illness as a Narcissistic Manipulative Sociopath. He sees his new bride as nothing more than a tool to be used for his own pleasure. He is controlling. Has no remorse for anything he does. Lies at the drop of a hat. Vindictive and jealous. Always accusing her of having a ‘HIM’ on the side. Cheats on her because he’s accused her of doing the same. Presses buttons and starts fights for no reason. Puts on a façade for friends and family so it looks like she’s lying when she tells them what he’s doing. Drama King.

The Pastor: Has no formal education on mental illness and no degree in psychology ,encourages a marriage between the manic depressant bipolar woman and a sociopath manipulative narcissist man. All while quoting this Bible verse

Matthew 19:5-7:

5 and said, ‘For this cause shall a man leave father and mother and shall cleave to his wife, and the two shall be one flesh’?
6 Therefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

The Bible does not address mental illness in marriages. Unless Jesus is present as in the New Testament physically curing the mentally ill they won’t get the help they need unless they seek out a professional.

Unchecked Mental Illness In The Black Church

It never crosses anybody’s mind that the bride and groom, or husband and wife,  have an unchecked mental illness that does not allow them to live an any peace. When they have a problem the pastor simply tells them to “pray those spirits away” or “rebuke Satan”.

Black churches promote and encourage bad marriages while hiding behind the Bible. When the people file for divorce they are discouraged from seeking real help all in the name of Jesus.

This section of Behind the curtain I am exposing the following:

A. Messed up marriages in the black church.
B. Exposing Pastors who encourage them

 

The Marriage

The Groom – A sociopathic narcissists has no regard for others, social norms, boundaries, and cannot help himself with pathological lying. He does not worry about the past or the future. He only does what he needs to do for right now this very second to survive. Sociopaths are good looking smooth talkers who will do or say anything to get  a yes from an individual or a crowd. Once he’s won the prize he’s not interested in keeping it. He moves on. This kind of behavior has no cure. The brain structure is that of the primitive brain. He’s an alcoholic.

The Bride – Has a chemical imbalance in the brain that causes her to suffer from Bi-polar and depression. These are two different things. She has mood swings, substance abuse, sadness, she’s angry all the time, and is physically and verbally abusive.

Both have gone through life with unchecked mental illnesses and believe that the life they live is normal.

The Pastor tells them that ‘Love can conquer all boundaries’ and ‘all you need is love in a marriage’ and trust in Jesus to work out any problems you face’ and ‘work on your marriage to make it last’.

The pastor’s favorite line is, “Don’t bail because if it fails” and “A marriage must be worked on and developed. But most of all love.”

**Two mentally ill people in a marriage will never work. One mentally ill person in a marriage barely works. There is not ‘working it out’ in any marriage with an unchecked mental illness partner**

In extreme cases where the other person is just too crazy somebody has to leave. A marriage is never worth putting your life or your child’s life in jeopardy.

The Wedding Day

The Groom barely show up because he wants the crowd to wonder if he’s going to show up. He wants to create drama. His aim is to see how much she really cares. If she’s crying when he gets there an hour late then that means she really cares.

The Bride continues to call the Groom in his absence on the alter. She threatens to pull a guy from the crowd and marry him if the Groom is not there in 15 more minutes. She’s totally embarrassed and does not want to face the crowd having been stood up at the alter.

The Groom laughs at the voice message because he enjoys playing mind games. Seeing others in pain is their goal. It brings them satisfaction. Sociopaths are excellent at playing mind games and the more upset you get the happier they are because they are winning.

The Groom finally shows up and she’s very happy to see him. This is step one in his quest for total control over her.

While the game playing is going on the Pastor has the choir sing songs and preaches a small sermon to keep the church guests engaged.

The Problem – The Honeymoon

The manic depressant bipolar bride and sociopathic manipulative narcissistic groom go on a honey moon. Both mental illnesses, anti-social personality disorders and displays of histrionics along with the drama king and queen occur.

The Groom is bored already with the new bride. He goes for drinks in the hotel bar with a petite little red head. His alternative reason is just to see if the new wife gets mad. Its a test of her love. The new wife catches him in the hotel bar and the scene triggers a mood swing. She starts swinging and fighting the red head. The groom enjoys the fight. The emotion she’s showing by punching the red head just proves how much she loves him. After he bails her out of jail for assault he professes his love for her.

The red head does not matter. She was a prop.

This is one of many mind games he will play on her just watch her take the bait.

Two Months Later

They are in the pastors office yelling about divorce. She’s tired of fighting all the girls and going to jail. He doesn’t understand why she doesn’t understand that she’s only showing love each time she gets an assault charge.

To normal people this is crazy. To a sociopath this is just plain fun and nothing else.

His behavior is triggering her mood swings and throwing her substance abuse into overdrive.

To her it is becoming a problem beyond her control. To him its just another life in the day and she needs to get with it!

The Pastor says– If they love each other and trust in God that the love and trust will overpower any problems they have. Encourages them to stay together and ‘work it out’.

The Groom is told to “Pray away his unfaithfulness” and to “Rebuke the wandering eye. It’s nothing but Satan trying to break them apart”

The Bride is told to “Pray away the substance abuse” and “Pray away the mood swings”

She wants to seek therapy. He doesn’t.

The pastor discourages them from going to therapy or seeing any professional. God is all they need.

If they trust in Jesus they won’t go to a professional.
If they go to a professional then they are not trusting Jesus.
If they’re not trusting Jesus then they are not true Christians.
If they are true Christians then they’ll know Jesus will fix it and not go to therapy.

This kind of circular logic/catch 22 is the problem. This mind game brain loop is helping no one.

Why Black Men Refuse To Go To Therapy

It is a sign of weakness

They will be seen as crazy

Therapy is for white people

Pride issues. What will their friends say if they find out

Seen as a punk

He does not want to admit there is a problem

The Divorce – 4 months later

They both are bored with each other. It’s the same old thing. They lie to each other everyday. They go through their mental instability episodes. They cheat on each other for fun and post it on Facebook. They have violent fights. And they have no shame in anything.

This kind of a marriage does not grow and won’t go anywhere. A marriage take TWO people working on it. One cannot work alone on a marriage that has another person who is unwilling to contribute to it.

They go to the pastor with a want for divorce

The Pastor warns them against it. They cannot get a divorce because :
It will upset Jesus
They need to work it out
They just need to love each other
They will be turning their backs on God
They will dishonor the vows they took
They have to stay together
They need to talk it out
They are falling into the “If it fails then bail” marriage trap

The Pastor is promoting two mentally ill people to stay in an unhealthy marriage and discouraging them to get any help. Prayer is always fine but sometimes you need extra help. These two are in a mentally, physically, and verbally abusive relationship. This can end very badly if someone does not get help soon.

The Final Outcome – 6 months later

The sociopathic narcissist husband committed a crime and blamed it on the bipolar manic depressant wife. He’ll do anything not to take the blame or responsibility for himself. While in jail she sees forced to see a therapist and finds out that she has a mental disorder. She’s given medication to balance the chemicals in her brain and now she understands what she didn’t before. She gets out of jail and tries to talk to the narcissistic sociopath husband about what she learned. He doesn’t want any part of it.

Confronting a sociopath

When a sociopath is confronted, exposed or outed he/she can become belligerent, violent, threatening your life or others, controlling in a way that has you locked in a basement or the back of a trunk, will pull a weapon if he has one, and when all else fails he/she will start crying while stating that they are the victim and then accuse you of everything you just exposed on them. And go as far as to say “Yes I did it! But YOU made me do it”.

They will never take responsibility for themselves or admit to any wrong doing without taking 10 people down with them.

The Pastor says the following after learning she has filed for divorce:

You’re just not giving it a chance
Why can’t you two work on your marriage?
Do you love and trust Jesus?

The bride yells at the pastor

“This ain’t got nothing to do with no Jesus related! He has a mental problem. I have a mental problem. I’m now on medication to stabilize me and he needs help too! Until we both get help this marriage isn’t going to work!”

The pastor and husband yell at the wife that she has allowed Satan to speak through her mouth. She has allowed spirits to enter her soul and allowed medicine to corrupt her. All they have to do is love each other and the marriage will work.

The bride gets up, leaves, turns in the paperwork for divorce and never attends that church again. She goes on her way with an understanding of what has happened and makes a better choice next time.

The sociopath narcissist finds another girl who is manic depressant and bipolar and repeats the same cycle he just went through. His theory is “If there is not drama in a relationship then it’s not a relationship” and he cheats on her “just to see how much she really cares” if she gets upset because he cheats on her then “it’s because she really loves him”. The more he cheats on her and the more upset she gets then that means she “really really loves him”.

Unchecked mental illness in a relationship will not work. It does not matter how much you love, pray, or scream the name of Jesus. Until the mental illness is put in some kind of check it’s not going to work.

Mental illness is real in the black community

and this little situation above plays out every single day of the week. Dealing with a mentally ill person is tiring, frustrating, aggravating and angering. If you don’t know the signs of mental illness then you cannot determine what is wrong with this person. That’s why people get shot.

There is no working out any marriage where one or both partners are mentally ill. Churches need to understand this and stop trying to interject religion and Jesus into a marriage that will never work anyway.

Isaiah 54:17 – No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper;

Mental illness is not a weapon! Mental illness is mental illness and is needs to be treated as a disease much like diabetes, leukemia or cancer. Mental illness can kill.

Hiding Behind The Bible

Here’s what the Bible has to say about marriages:
1. Multiple wives
2. Multiple wives and concubines

And that’s pretty much the message throughout the Bible

Actual marriages in the Bible where someone had a problem

Every marriage in the Bible was dysfunctional to say the least! Here we go.

Dysfunctional Marriages in the Bible

1. Adam and Lilith.

It is hotly debated whether or not Lilith was Adam’s first wife or not. Anyway, The first Genesis 1:26 speaks of a maiden and man. They weren’t named. It is thought that this was Adam and Lilith. Well she got mad and left which is why Genesis 2 was written again. This time there are names of Adam and Eve.

2. Genesisn2:4. Adam and Eve.

First ones on earth (supposedly. There could have been a Pre-Adamic People), they were totally clueless, they messed everything up for everybody else. Then they were poor parents who raised one smart mouth brat Abel and a psychopath Cain. You know the rest. All 4 suffered from some kind of mental illness but being the only ones on earth they had no one to turn to. God is supposed to know all, yet, he had to ask Cain what happened to Abel even though he knew Cain would lie in the first place. Why did God ask if he already knew the answer?

3. Genesis 29- Rachel and Leah.

Two baby mommas who had a contest for who could produce the biggest litter. We all know who won. Isaac and Rebecca, Jacob and Esau, Rachel and Leah, and the hand maids all needed professional mental help and didn’t receive it. All that dysfunction led to Joseph, Rachel’s kid, talking smack and his brothers throwing him in a hole.

4. Ruth 1- Ruth. A poor ugly codependent who got into it with the girls during gleaning. She just didn’t get it. Ruth was a people pleasing biblical doormat who lived very passive in and sad.

5. Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John – Joseph and Mary.

The Holy Spirit knew full well she was Joseph’s girl and made her a baby momma anyway. Joseph disappeared from the scriptures. We don’t know where he went but I assumed he went for bad, as any slighted man would, in the Holy Spirits face and got man handled.

Also the Holy Spirit violated his own rule of “Thalt Shalt Not Covet….”

6. Judges 16-Sampson and Delilah.

She set this biblical brother up for a bad haircut. And the whole blinding this was a bad side effect. Poor guy died never knowing that she was a manipulative delusional sociopath.

There were no mental health specialists to help him recognize the signs. Otherwise, he could have just left.

The worst and most stupid marriage in the Bible. The Book Of Hosea!

Hosea and Gomar

I had issues with this.

The Lord instructed Hosea to go get a skank. He found Gomer in her natural element. Hosea tried to do what the Lord said and just couldn’t hang with her rude awful behavior.

She was twerking in the stables. She was cussing and smoking with lewd behavior. She was a donkey rustler. She was a village ‘lot lizard’. And what probably set it off was that horrid scene at the market where she defiled the bread.

(for those of you taking that seriously please do not. I made that up. Creative Writing)

He came to his senses and put her out. Too much drama.

The Lord encouraged Hosea to go get her back and deal with all the skankiness. Following the Lord’s orders he found her somewhere twerking in the temple and bought her for “fifteen shekels of silver, and one and one-half homers of barley”. He laid down the law and now she loves the Lord and stopped all behavior.

Exodus 20:14 clearly states thou shalt not commit adultery. It is believed that God wrote it. So what kind of a Lord would fully encourage a good upstanding man to seek and search for a ‘wife of harlotry’ AKA a skank? The first sentence defies one of the 10 commandments he supposedly wrote!

Next Hosea does the right thing and stop associating with somebody like that only to have the Lord make him pay shekels for her. Then miraculously she ceases and desists all bad behavior.

Gomer clearly suffered from some kind of delusion, manic depressant, and maybe bipolar. Clearly sociopathic with no regard for societal rules and no boundaries.  Without proper treatment and medication she would not have made that kind of a turn around unless he chained her in a basement and cut her off from all contact of other people.

People like Gomer and others who engage in that kind of behavior need an audience for attention. If there is no audience they are sad and feel lonely.

None of these marriages should ever be used as any example of anything. They were all dysfunctional.

Divorce in the Bible

Matthew 5:32
But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.

Thalt shall not commit adultery is a commandment. Committing adultery means you go to hell.

Divorce in the bible only went one way. The man, who had a zillion wives, could divorce any one of the wives at any time, HOWEVER, she could not divorce him. She did not have that right but he did. FURTHERMORE, if she is sent away if another man married the divorced woman then HE goes to hell. Not her! Him!

The debate is if she is in a dysfunctional marriage, such as you are wife number 82 and you have to deal with 623 concubines, and wife number 82 wants to leave, she can’t! Her only hope is that he tires of her and pushes her out the door. But now she becomes a risk for another guy because he’s going to hell because of her.

This makes sense to who!!!!!!!

 

Leviticus 21:7 – states Thy shall not take a wife who is a harlot or a defiled woman, nor shall they take a woman divorced from her husband; for the priest is holy to his God.

Yet, the Lord told Hosea to do just that in the first line of the Book of Hosea. Hmmmm.

Numbers 30 is totally ridiculous. Don’t even read it.

Deuteronomy 25:11
11 “If two men fight together, and the wife of one draws near to rescue her husband from the hand of the one attacking him, and puts out her hand and seizes him by the genitals, 12 then you shall cut off her hand; your eye shall not pity her.

Actually, this is the kind of wife you want. She will have your back in a fight but no, The Lord says you have to cut off her hand.

Deuteronomy 22:28-28

“If a man finds a young woman who is a virgin, who is not betrothed, and he seizes her and lies with her, and they are found out, 29 then the man who lay with her shall give to the young woman’s father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife because he has humbled her; he shall not be permitted to divorce her all his days.

The point of this is to make the rapist take responsibility. The violated girl is never considered in any of this. She is the victim of the punishment in this whole scenario. What girl wants to marry a guy who forced her? What if it was her father, brother, uncle, cousin, next door neighbor, pastor, priest, or whoever? This is in the bible and it is marked SHARIA LAW.

Oh and in the bible the violated girl still has no right to file for divorce against her husband whom she was forced to marry after being attacked. Only he has that right.

1 Corinthians 7 – go figure on that one

There are several more but this one does not fit either
Matthew 22:24
saying: “Teacher, Moses said that if a man dies, having no children, his brother shall marry his wife and raise up offspring for his brother.

Thalt shalt not commit adultery! However, if you are married and your brother dies you are to take your sister in law and marry her and produce children for your brother while you still have your original wife!

This promotes too many questions:

What if your brother was gay?
What if you killed your brother like Cain killed Abel?
What if you have 6 brothers then who decides on the goods?
What if you hated your brother and glad he’s dead?
What if you don’t like your sister in law?
What if she doesn’t like you?
What if she doesn’t want to get married?
What if she already has another boyfriend?
What if two sisters married two brothers?

This makes sense to who???!!!!!

And churches are actually using these verses to try and sort out relationships between individuals who may or may not be mentally ill. The church doesn’t know if they are mentally ill because nobody is asking.

Rethink this!!

 

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August 11, 2017 · 6:00 am

Behind The Curtain- Parental drug use And Mental Illness in Parents

Unaddressed mental illness in the black community

Section E: Child Abuse in the black community with parents under the influence

Definition of Child Abuse: when the punishment does not fit the crime.
Example. Susie receives a ‘black eye’ because she asked for a ‘cookie’.
Definition of beating: a punishment or assault in which the victim is hit repeatedly:
Definition of hit: bring one’s hand or a tool or weapon into contact with (someone or something) quickly and forcefully: strike, slap, smack, spank, cuff, … more
• cause harm or distress to:
• an instance of striking or being struck: blow, thump, punch, knock, bang
• an instance of striking the target aimed at:
Definition of repeatedly: over and over again; constantly: synonyms: frequently, often, again and again, over and over (again), time and (time) again,
Definition of punishment:1. the infliction or imposition of a penalty as retribution for an offense: “crime demands just punishment” synonyms: penalizing, punishing, disciplining, retribution, retributive justice,
Definition of assault: 1. a violent physical or verbal attack b
2. 2 law a : a threat or attempt to inflict offensive physical contact or bodily harm on a that puts the person in immediate danger of or in apprehension of such harm or contact — compare battery 1bb : rape 2

Instigators of child abuse in the black community

A Church
B Grandparents
C Tradition
D Acceptance
E Parental drug use
F Media

 

Parental drug use And Mental Illness in parents

“Just pray about it and trust Jesus and your addiction will stop”

This statement comes straight from the black church. Addiction is a diseases of the brain and cannot be prayed away. Trusting in Jesus is perfectly fine but that is not the answer to someone with a diseased mind.

Children of drug addicts

There is no way for a child to know that his/her parent is hooked on drugs or alcohol. Children naturally bond and trust their parents with unconditional love until they are able to reason and sort out thoughts. Children of drug addicts watch the parents behavior and mimic what they see the parent do. The child will think that the actions of the parent are correct and normal until they find out otherwise.

If the parent is high on drugs and abuses the child, then the child will naturally think that he’s done something to deserve it. When in fact, the child is innocent.

Exodus 20: Honor your Father and Mother

This is one of the 10 commandments in the Bible and the Torah. This is also the commandment that strips children of any and all rights to live a perfectly normal life.

Does this commandment apply to parents who are herion, crack, PCP, Spice, Xtacy, and needle junkies?

The Bible doesn’t specify. Church leads you to believe that you are supposed to honor your father and mother no matter what! Even if they are not in their right mind. Otherwise you go to hell!

Does this commandment apply to children of Sociopaths and Narcissists?

What about parents who function on the Primitive or Reptilian Brain?

Parents like that are unable to feel love and cannot differentiate right from wrong. People like that have no business raising kids or let alone giving birth to them.

Does this apply to children of alcoholics? Mommy or Daddy or both stayed so drunk that every holiday, outing, family event, school event, or award show was ruined.

When I say ruined I’m talking about Mommy or Daddy vomiting on the crowd over a balcony because he or she had to get drunk before attending the event. Or worse yet, they were so drunk they don’t even remember going to your baptism, wedding, your birth or anything else.

Happy Mother or Father’s Day!

Mothers Day and Fathers Day can be a nightmare for children and adults who had to cut ties with an abusive parent. The black church has promoted failed parenting in the black community with hiding behind the Bible.

The commercials on TV showing loving parents and how you should reward does not apply to most of America. Those commercials present a false illusion.

Stressing honor your father and mother while a child is telling you they’ve been hurt is promoting failed parenting.

It is unfair to that child and wrong. Any church doing this should lose their non-profit status as soon as they are reported and they should be reported!

Honor your abusive father and mother while refusing to attend their funeral

Every black funeral has its own drama. Jumping in graves. Fights. Flipping over a table at the repass. Punching the pastor. Throwing flowers. Punching the corpse. Family members arrested at the grave yard. Family members shot at a funeral. I’ve heard it all.

What about someone attending the funeral who was told not to or someone not attending who should be or someone who was forced to attend who doesn’t want to be there?

The aftermath of child abuse when you are an adult

Tomika is now 40 years old. Her parents have been out of jail for years and she has not spoken to them in over a decade. She and her brother have suffered Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. The abuse was over the top. She’s gone through years of therapy and counseling to deal with the abuse inflicted on her and her brother Will. She feels remorse for running away and abandoning her little brother. Her father has died and she is refusing to go to the funeral because he was not a good man. Plus she knows that her mother and grandparents who instigated the abuse will be there. They have no changed and blame Tomika for their extended stay in county.

The church and the family gives her a hard time. After standing her ground on the issue she and brother  Will decide to go but now without a dramatic show.

The Funeral of An Abusive Parent

This is another taboo subject in the black community. Attending the funeral of an abuser. In the black community you are just supposed to follow suit and go to the funeral because “it’s the right thing to do”.

It is believed that if the person is dead that all conflicts have been resolved at that point and you are only to remember the good times and all is miraculously forgiven.

Even if there were no good times you are supposed to make them up and believe there were some.

Everybody has the right to choose whether or not they attend anybody’s funeral anywhere in this world. A survivor of abuse has the right to decide if he/she wants to attend the abusers funeral. It is their personal choice and nobody else’s. Judgement should not be passed on anyone refusing to attend a funeral for whatever their reason.

Tomika and Will

Tomika and Will are justified in their anger towards their estranged abusive father and towards the mother who assisted in the abuse. And towards the grandparents who instigated it. The church and the school were also wrong but they are past aggravants at this point.

Tomika and Will angrily bust into the funeral home, push the pastor aside and commandeer the microphone. They never look into the casket. Will shoves the pastor in the face as the pastor verbally protests their behavior. The whole church protests the behavior. Will and Tomika make the following speech to the objecting upset crowd.

Tomika
We will say what we need to say about this fool and then we gonna leave! I’m not going to stand here and lie to you and say he was a good man because he wasn’t. Nor will I stand here and tell you he was father of the year because he wasn’t. Nor will I tell you that I’m going to miss him. Because I won’t. If you think I’m being disrespectful right now what about what he did to me and how you allowed it to happen.

Crowd: That’s over with why you still carrying it on. He’s dead have some respect!

Will
It amazes me how you people expect us to stand up here and sing praises of a man who cared only about himself and abused and used everybody in his path. If you expect us to say he’s in heaven or God is welcoming him and basically turn “Satan into a Saint” for your viewing pleasure then you can hang that up. If you think that we came here expecting that attending will help us work through our pain and unresolved issues that’s not going to happen. If you want to think he was best man ever just because we’re in this setting then go ahead. Pretending doesn’t make it true. He’s rotting in hell with the halo that you placed on him!

Crowd: Yall should be over this by now! Yall need to be supporting your mother! Yall wrong for what yall doing here! Yall need to grow up!

Tomika
For those of you who think this is inappropriate and terrible what we’re doing right now? Why did you not think that the abuse he inflicted on us was inappropriate and terrible then? We were defenseless kids. Several of you in this crowd knew what he was doing and who he was doing it to. Our cries went unheard and ignored. The damage was done and cannot be undone and the damage was equally done by Mother and all of you. You had the power to stop him from abusing us. But instead we were blamed and labeled as liars. We just had to take it because we were kids. Get over it? Grow up? (laughs) Those statements are uttered by weak losers who didn’t have the balls to stand up for a child.

Crowd: We didn’t know he was doing that! If we’d a known we’d a helped!

Will
We told you but you called us liars! Grandma and Grandpa you instigated this whole mess and sat back and watched while they beat me senseless at 7 years old. Not only did you watch you laughed each time I cried out in tears. Let me make this clear. When you two die I will not attend your funerals. I got better things to do!

Tomika
Me too! We know as soon as we leave you’re going to make him out to be the greatest most wonderful man on the planet who saved kittens from trees and built campfires for boy scouts! That couldn’t further from the truth. Yet you would rather believe that lie than to face the monster he really was. Will is right he wouldn’t be the monster he was without instigation from you two! The beatings, the addictions, the hiding behind the Bible, you two deserve exactly what you get. As far as him in this coffin right now! Good riddens to bad trash! Keep him!

Crowd: Why don’t yall leave! Yall causing trouble! Why yall dragging up old news! Its over with! Yall need to forigive!

Will
Its not over for us! It will never be over for us! And all of you who kept silent while we were being abused and chose to ignore us when we told you what was happening? You will have your day. May God have mercy on your wretched souls cause I sure don’t!

Tomika

Hey! If you want people to come mourn you at a funeral act right while you’re alive! Then maybe they’ll respect you when your dead! This mess in this coffin right here! Keep it!

Will and Tomika leave the funeral

Mental illness in the black community is real

I made this whole scenario up with Tomika and Will based on other stories I’ve heard, however, scenes like this play out all the time with funerals and sometimes weddings. An abuser, abuses. That’s what abusers do.

The target on the receiving end of the abuse will always remember the emotions from the abuse.

The abuser never remembers because it’s just another life in the day. Once the abuser has gotten the abuse out of his/her system he/she is finished with it. If the target brings it up later the abuser doesn’t understand.

As far the abuser is concerned it’s over. They feel better and that’s all that matters. “so why are you still crying about it?”

Responses to Adult Survivors of Child Abuse who dare to speak up are as follows:

These are the words adult survivors of child abuse hear every single day from those who don’t understand the difference between discipline and flat out abuse. And from those who choose believe that the abuse never occurred and you just made it all up.

Child abuse is no laughing matter. But in the black community it’s a mere joke and hazing children is taken as a given if you are black.

“Cant you ever be happy?”

The healing process from child hood abuse is mentally and physically draining. Especially if someone is dealing with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder while having an additional problem processing what happened. A phrase like this said to someone who is suffering from continued depression and maybe having suicidal thoughts is cruel, insensitive and horrible.

“I don’t want to hear about this I want to hear only happy things”

This is the problem. Someone is in pain crying out for help and this kind of a nonsense response is what they get? Not wanting to talk about the real problem and masking it behind a curtain of false faces. At what point do you deal with reality? Never?

“I don’t let people into my space who bring negativity”

Anybody saying this is the one who is negative. The person saying this is already full of negativity and mentally unbalanced. Addressing an issue that needs to be addressed is not bringing in negativity. It’s simply addressing an issue. People who say these things cannot deal with reality and will quickly diss you with no warning because they are messed up in the head.

“get over it already”

This is insensitive, cruel, evil, idiotic, and it is an abusive statement. If anyone says this to you don’t ever speak to them again. Cut all ties. People who say this do not care about you, your feelings, or even want to hear what you have to say. They are selfish. They choose to degrade you to make themselves bigger.

“Grow up”

This is condescending and how you would speak to a child or a young teen. This is not how you speak to an adult in pain. The person who says this is usually the one that needs to grow up. This person is insensitive, a bully, and uses this statement as a means to not only put you down and make you feel bad but they want to control and be evil.

“Pray about it”

This is angering, stupid, and hurtful. Telling a survivor of child abuse to pray about it is totally ignorant. The person saying it truly knows no better and thinks they are helping. In reality “pray about it” is just throwing fuel into the fire.

“you were such a brat”

This is such a lovely thing to say to someone who is still dealing with mental cruelty inflicted upon them. Flat out evil and wrong.

“Every family has a little drama”

This is a passive statement to downgrade or demean a serious situation. So being raped and placed in a hospital with internal injuries is just a little drama? Broken arms or tied to the back of a car during a family outing and water thrown on a kid is just a little drama?

“don’t you think it’s time you just forgive”

no where in the bible does it say forgive and forget. Nor does it address mental issues that lead to the inappropriate incidents

“you should try to have tried to work it out”

abusive parents are mentally ill and have no idea that what they are doing is wrong. Exactly how to you work that out with somebody who is not capable of understanding what you are saying?

“that’s over with by now why are you still mad”

This is the most infuriating, evil, ignorant, sorry statement any individual can possibly make. This statement alone is why mental illness is rampant in the black community. This is like telling a soldier “Hey buddy you’re out of battle now so why are still crying about it”

Post Traumatic Stress disorder is not just for soldiers. Its for anybody who has faced almost being killed either by someone else, natural disasters, war, abuse, or any situation that was out of their control where someone was killed or ended up dead and they survived.

“Your (parent) wasn’t that bad you are just over sensitive”

Yeah you’re right. Public humiliation and the aftermath of being made a target where me or someone else was physically injured for no reason mentally and physically is just being over sensitive. Yeah you’re right. Abused kids should just take it a shut up. You’re right.

“don’t get mad at others just because you had a bad Dad/Mom”

Please shut up

“why didn’t you just ask your dad/mom to apologize for what he did”

This is somebody who just doesn’t get it. Abusers feel they have the right to abuse. They feel they are justified in their abuse. Why on earth would someone who feels they’ve done nothing wrong apologize?

“Your father wasn’t the problem. It was you”

If you were not there and did not see what happened then what do you know? Shut up. Please!

After the funeral Tomika feels the following

Relief!! She said what she had been wanting to say to all the faces that turned away from her during her time of sorrow and abuse. She and Will transferred the energy back to where it belonged.

Going to that funeral and taking a stand jump started the rest of their healing process. Now they can continue life and thrive. The miserable mother and grandparents do not matter.

How Tomika and Will felt before the funeral

My parents were supposed to protect me and instead they abused me
Each time I looked for them to comfort me they hurt me
Each time I cried for help I was silenced with a slap
My parents abandoned me emotionally and did not give me the proper guidance I needed
Beating me black and blue did not prepare me for the world
Why me?
What was the point?
Did I really deserve a broken arm just because I moved a rug away from the closet door?
Other family was supposed to protect me when my parents could not?
The school, church, friends and family let me down by knowing I was being hurt and not lifting a finger to help!

Child abuse is a form of abandonment

When a parent abuses the child they are abandoning the child’s feelings and right to happiness. They are taking away from that child a desire to be loved.

Forcing a child to live this way just because its tradition is wrong. Using Bible verses against a child to condone the abuse inflicted upon him/her is wrong.

These churches need to wake up!

After the Funeral the Family says this about Tomika and Will

Shame and blame
1. She’s not supposed to air dirty family laundry in a setting like that. She should have addressed this while he was alive.
2. If there is family problem then the family was supposed to solve it.
3. Had she just prayed about it Jesus would have made it stop.
4. They were just bad kids
5. She was the problem. She just kept it up all these years. She could have worked it out with him if she wanted to

They still don’t want to listen. The mental illness of the father is still not admitted even in death. Tomika and Will were the targets of abuse and they are still being blamed for being abused.

Once family members act like this the trust is broken and live it lost.

In a case where someone has been abused and blamed for the abuse sometimes it is best to do just what Tomika and Will did. Cut all contact. Keeping in contact with toxic people who only want to continue victimizing you is never a good idea.

What does the Bible say about mental illness?

The Old Testament is in high favor of punishing, killing, hurting and maiming mentally ill people. They are referred to as wicked, perverse, devils, demons and basically “God-Haters”.

The New Testament offers some relief to mental illness with the works of Jesus. Again the mentally ill are referred to as having “Devils” or being ridden with “Demons”. Jesus casts out the “Devils” from the mentally ill but we have no idea what the problem really was.

Schizophrenia? Seizures? Bipolar? Manic Depressant? Depression? Suicidal thoughts? Anti-Social Personality Disorders? Extreme Autism? Addicts? We have no idea. Some Bible verses explain the condition well enough for us to guess the disease.

Pslams does an excellet job ad describing sociopaths and psychopaths.
Psalm 58 Do ye indeed speak righteousness, O congregation? do ye judge uprightly, O ye sons of men? Yea, in heart ye work wickedness; ye weigh the violence of your hands in the earth. The wicked are estranged from the womb: they go astray as soon as they be born, speaking lies. Their poison is like the poison of a serpent: they are like the deaf adder that stoppeth her ear; (pathological liars, sociopaths, anti-social personality disorders)

Psalm 10:15Break thou the arm of the wicked and the evil man: seek out his wickedness till thou find none.

Psalm 31:17 – Let me not be ashamed, O Lord; for I have called upon thee: let the wicked be ashamed, and let them be silent in the grave.

Psalm 11:6 – Upon the wicked he shall rain snares, fire and brimstone, and an horrible tempest: this shall be the portion of their cup.

As much as I enjoy the thought of breaking arms of those who seem bent on evil humanity must understand that these people need help. Not broken arms.

The book of Matthew refers to mental illness and epileptic fits as ‘devils’.

Matthew 15:22 – And, behold, a woman of Canaan came out of the same coasts, and cried unto him, saying, Have mercy on me, O Lord, thou son of David; my daughter is grievously vexed with a devil. (read this whole passage and you will see her daughter suffers from epilepsy)

Matthew 11:18 – For John came neither eating nor drinking, and they say, He hath a devil.

Luke 4:33 – And in the synagogue there was a man, which had a spirit of an unclean devil, and cried out with a loud voice, (extreme schizophrenia)

And verses like Romans who address perverseness and clearly state that they were not healed. They were left to themselves.

Romans 1:24 – Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:

As much as I enjoy the thought of breaking arms of those who cannot and will not adhere to societal rules and those who seem bent on evil I cannot do it! These people need help, not broken arms.

If you say you are a Christian to God then why don’t you want to address mental illness. Why would you say one thing in favor of God and do the exact opposite?

1 Corinthians 10:21Ye cannot drink the cup of the Lord, and the cup of devils: ye cannot be partakers of the Lord’s table, and of the table of devils.

Simply put – The Slave and the Slave Master cannot serve the same God!

 

 

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August 8, 2017 · 6:00 am

Behind The Curtain – Child Abuse In The Black Community Section C and D

Part 2 Section C & D

Unaddressed mental illness in the black community

Definition of Child Abuse: when the punishment does not fit the crime.
Example. Susie receives a ‘black eye’ because she asked for a ‘cookie’.
Definition of beating: a punishment or assault in which the victim is hit repeatedly:
Definition of hit: bring one’s hand or a tool or weapon into contact with (someone or something) quickly and forcefully: strike, slap, smack, spank, cuff, … more
• cause harm or distress to:
• an instance of striking or being struck: blow, thump, punch, knock, bang
• an instance of striking the target aimed at:
Definition of repeatedly: over and over again; constantly: synonyms: frequently, often, again and again, over and over (again), time and (time) again,
Definition of punishment:1. the infliction or imposition of a penalty as retribution for an offense: “crime demands just punishment” synonyms: penalizing, punishing, disciplining, retribution, retributive justice,
Definition of assault: 1. a violent physical or verbal attackb
2. 2 law a : a threat or attempt to inflict offensive physical contact or bodily harm on a that puts the person in immediate danger of or in apprehension of such harm or contact — compare battery 1bb : rape 2

Instigators of child abuse in the black community
A Church
B Grandparents
C Tradition
D Acceptance
E Parental drug use
F Media

Cultural, Tradition, and Acceptance

It is widely accepted in the black community that children are to be seen and not heard. Children are to be beat and told not to cry. Children are to be disciplined swift, hard, and quickly. Why is this?

1. We are told that this comes from slavery
2. We are told that what the slaves went through is far worse than anything now so we have nothing to cry about
3. We are told if I don’t beat you now the police will do it later so it’s a necessary evil that I get you straight now
4. It’s what is expected and if you don’t beat your kids then you are ‘acting white’
5. Mental illness is not recognized, thought about or even an option. If the child is suffering from an undiagnosed mental illness and the parent decides to beat the child to make him act right, then this is a recipe for certain disaster
6. It’s not just physical abuse on black children. Mental, verbal, and spiritual abuse comes with it.
7. After the abuse gets out of hand and a parent is in jail the first words out of their mouth is “I didn’t think I was doing anything wrong.” or “I was just doing what was done to me. I didn’t know anything else.”

Just because it was done to you doesn’t make it right. For those of you who think you turned out fine I’m here to tell you that you didn’t. You are continuing and reinforcing hurt and harm to innocent children all in the name of tradition.

These following statements are culturally accepted in the black community and should not be:

1. I got beat too when I was a kid.

What is the definition of beat? Black eyes? Blood drawn? Broken bones? Death? Is this kind of beating on a child okay with you?

2. Those bruises will heal.

This is cruel.

3. You shouldn’t have done it.

Maybe nothing was done! Maybe the child simply asked for school supplies.

4. They had to beat you otherwise you won’t learn.

Learn what? How to duck and dodge? How to take it like a G? How to apply make up for black eyes?

5. That’s the only way black kids learn is through a beating.

This comes straight from slavery out of the slave master’s mouth and he’s still talking in 2017. Shut the slave master up by not repeating these words.

6. So what. Grow up.

This is just hurtful, awful, and unless you know the situation you need to shut up.

7. Stop the whining and toughen up you’re too soft and sensitive.

Really? Only an insensitive self serving jerk would make an awful statement such as this to a child that’s been beaten, raped and possibly tied up in a basement.

8. Everybody gets hit why should you be any different.

Hit? This statement is an awful thing to say to anybody. Not all children need to be hit.

9. (my all time favorite) If they didn’t love you they wouldn’t beat you.

Again. Define the meaning of beat. Its okay for a child to be taken to a hospital with internal injuries from a beating. Its okay for a child to die from internal injuries to the heart or lungs because she wet the bed? This is done out of love?

10. Be good and act right and you won’t get beat. Now shut up and get out of my face.

Just cruel, evil, disrespectful, awful, and anybody who says this to a child needs a head check and deserves the worst of every aspect in their life.

11. I’m not here to be my child’s friend. I’m here to be a parent!

Then be a parent! A real parent strives to improve the child not break him down to the point where he’s hanging himself in a closet. A parent and an abuser are two different things. A parent finds ways to work through the situation without placing hands on the child in a bullish disrespectful manner.

12. I didn’t know I was doing anything wrong.

Really? You are in a court room with a lawyer, judge, jury, court tv cameras and DFCS is at the table across from you. And you seriously didn’t know beating a child senseless would lead to this?

14. Fear equals respect. I have to instill fear in my child otherwise he/she won’t respect me.

No fear equals hate. Your child hates you and will eventually run away and rightfully so. Whoever told you that lie should be charged right along with you for being stupid enough to make a statement such as this.

15. I got beat when I was a child and I turned out fine.

No you didn’t. You continued the abuse on to your child and grandchild and at some point this abuse will backfire badly. You may not get the immediate effects but your children will.

The above statements are heard every single day by several black children of parents who either just don’t know any better or just don’t care. 

If a child has a mental condition such as Asperger’s, or some other autism, and the parent does not recognize the signs that the child may have a problem, then the child hears one or more of these statements above.

“He’s just bad! He’s a bad child!”

No child is bad. A behavioral problem in a child is due to a few factors.

1. Environment such as abuse.

2. A mental disorder that has gone unchecked

3. A perfectly normal child responding badly to a parent who is not in his or her right mind

4. Outside stress not coming from within the house.

It should not be acceptable in any community to “Haze” a child as if its a right of passage to be black. Parents who whip, beat and stomp their children in the name of love are not showing love. They teach the child mistrust and how to hate. Why and how are the two being confused?

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August 5, 2017 · 6:00 am

Behind The Curtain – Grandparents and Child Abuse

Part 2 Section B

Unaddressed mental illness in the black community

Definition of Child Abuse: when the punishment does not fit the crime.
Example. Susie receives a ‘black eye’ because she asked for a ‘cookie’.
Definition of beating: a punishment or assault in which the victim is hit repeatedly:
Difinition of hit: bring one’s hand or a tool or weapon into contact with (someone or something) quickly and forcefully: strike, slap, smack, spank, cuff, … more
• cause harm or distress to:
• an instance of striking or being struck: blow, thump, punch, knock, bang
• an instance of striking the target aimed at:
Definition of repeatedly: over and over again; constantly: synonyms: frequently, often, again and again, over and over (again), time and (time) again,
Definition of punishment: 1. the infliction or imposition of a penalty as retribution for an offense: “crime demands just punishment” synonyms: penalizing, punishing, disciplining, retribution, retributive justice,
Definition of assault: 1. a violent physical or verbal attackb
2. 2 law a : a threat or attempt to inflict offensive physical contact or bodily harm on a that puts the person in immediate danger of or in apprehension of such harm or contact — compare battery 1bb : rape 2

Instigators of child abuse in the black community

A Church
B Grandparents
C Tradition
D Acceptance
E Parental drug use
F Media

Grandparents

Grandparents are the second major group to instigate child abuse. Whether the abuse is handed down through the way they raised the parents or the grandparents doing it themselves.

Currently Grandparents are not legally held responsible for anything pertaining to the abuse of their grand children even if they knew about it. The reason for this is they are considered a third party. They should be just as responsible and share the sentence with their kids for any found abuse on grandchildren including death.

Why should grandparents be held responsible?

Three sentences should hold them in criminal intent immediately:

When an abusive parent makes these statements pertaining to how they were raised it should automatically incriminate the grandparents. 

1. “I was just doing what was done to me”
2. “I didn’t think I was doing anything wrong”
3. “That’s how I was taught to discipline.”

The grandparents taught them that behavior, if not instigated it, and now a child is hurt.

Where did the parent learn it from?

Any time a child is abused the grandparent should share the blame and take half of the jail sentence if for the following reasons:

1. They raised their own kids to abuse and now their grandchildren are being abused
2. Grandparents always know there is abuse going on and 9 times out of 10 they do not report it. Not reporting abuse in some states is a crime. That crime should double if it’s the grandparent who does not report this
4. If at anytime a child states that the grandparent knew all about it and never did anything to help there should be automatic 30 days in jail for the grandparent in addition to being charged in conjunction with the crime.

Where is the line drawn between discipline and abuse?

Definition of discipline: punishment, instruction, a field of study, training that corrects, molds, or perfects the mental faculties or moral character, control gained by enforcing obedience or order b : orderly or prescribed conduct or pattern of behavior

Definition of abuse: a corrupt practice or custom, improper or excessive use or treatment, : language that condemns or vilifies usually unjustly, intemperately, and angrily, physical maltreatment

Which one of these girls is disciplined and which one is abused?

Jill was clearly abused. Sadly, some people think that Jill was lightly punished or not punished enough. Even more sad people see this happening to Jill and don’t do anything and don’t speak up.

The reasons people say they don’t speak up is:

1. It’s none of their business
2. They can’t tell somebody else how to parent
3. They don’t know the whole situation
4. They don’t see anything wrong with what happened to Jill
5. Jill’s behavior was seen as bad

 

Only after a child dies do people speak up with what they saw. But that’s too late! Say something when its happening.

DFCS and Social Workers

According to DFCS and Social workers physical marks must be visible before they can do anything. Mental and verbal abuse do not count in a court of law for child abuse because it can’t be physically proven.

Physical abuse definition = excessive harm, physical harm, or death.

Mental and verbal abuse are far more damaging than physical abuse. The scars from mental abuse can last many years to a life time. Being of the receiving end of verbal abuse is never fun nor is verbal abuse to a child acceptable at any time.

What is the intent for hitting the child?

Is it to hurt?
Teach them a lesson?
Show off for your friends?
Public humiliation to teach them the wrong doing?
Beat them now so the police won’t do it later?
To make them cry?
Power?
To Bully?

When is a good reason to hit or “beat” a child?

You’ve told 3 year old Glenda 3 times not to jump on the bed. Should Glenda get a sound beating?

5 year old Robbie has a pair of scissors and is sticking it in the light socket. Do you hit Robbie?

16 year old Tina has cut school again with her friends and she’s smoking. Do you smack Tina around?

15 year old Jerry failed a math test. Do you beat him senseless or meet with the math teacher to find out the problem?

Boundaries

Is it just for kids or do parents have them too?

Violence Against Children Act of 2011

Each state has its own child abuse laws. Most states leave it up to the parents. Senator Barbara Boxer in California tried to introduce a nationwide bill that would unify violence against children. It fell dead in Congress.

Why?

Because a group of dummies decided that states should handle this and not the federal government. In this case they couldn’t be more wrong. I would love to see this bill come back with a few modifications.

I would like for it to include that if a child discloses the abuse to any adult and the adult does nothing about it that the adult gets at least 30 days in jail for failing to protect a child.

I would like for it so also include that churches should lose their 501c3 status if they fail to protect an abused child in their church who has reported.

And any school officials or police officers who did not report the abuse of the child or make a report should be immediately fired and never hold that position again anywhere else in America.

How important are our kids to us?

 

 

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August 2, 2017 · 6:00 am

Behind The Curtain 2 – Child Abuse and How The Black Church Promotes It

Part 2 Section A

Black children should not be victims of ‘hazing’ as a right of passage for being born black.

Unaddressed mental illness in the black community

Definition of Child Abuse: when the punishment does not fit the crime.

Example. Susie receives a ‘black eye’ because she asked for a ‘cookie’.

Definitions

Definition of beating: a punishment or assault in which the victim is hit repeatedly:

Definition of hit:  bring one’s hand or a tool or weapon into contact with (someone or something) quickly and forcefully: strike, slap, smack, spank, cuff, … more
• cause harm or distress to:
• an instance of striking or being struck: blow, thump, punch, knock, bang
• an instance of striking the target aimed at:

Definition of repeatedly:  over and over again; constantly: synonyms: frequently, often, again and again, over and over (again), time and (time) again,

Definition of punishment:  1. the infliction or imposition of a penalty as retribution for an offense: “crime demands just punishment” synonyms: penalizing, punishing, disciplining, retribution, retributive justice, … more

Definition of assault: 1. a violent physical or verbal attackb
2. 2 law a : a threat or attempt to inflict offensive physical contact or bodily harm on a that puts the person in immediate danger of or in apprehension of such harm or contact — compare battery 1bb : rape 2

Some people do not know the true definition of “a beating”. A beating is not discipline. A beating is abuse.

Instigators of child abuse in the black community

Section A Church
Section B Grandparents
Section C Tradition
Section D Acceptance
Section E Parental drug use
Section F Media

The Church

How does the black church promote child abuse and discourage mental help?

What happens when child reports abuse to the church?

Tomika is 15 and her brother Will are 7. Tomika is being physically and sexually abused by her father and Will is being mentally and verbally abused by their mother. Tomika has been labeled as a trouble maker at church and school and she is a bully to the neighborhood kids. She’s been suspended several times and has been arrested for stealing.

Will is a target of bullying at church and school. He cries a lot and often sits off by himself in a corner and won’t associate with any of the kids because he’s afraid of being bullied again. Both kids are depressed and full of anger. Tomika is in an acting out phase while Will is in a withdrawal phase.

The pastor and other church members have no psychology degree and do not recognize these signs, therefore, Will has been labeled as shy while Tomika has been labeled as unruly.

The Church

Tomika confides in the pastor at church and the following happens:
1. She is not believed because her father is the head deacon of the church
2. Honor your father and mother says Jesus
3. I got beat too when I was a kid
4. You shouldn’t have done it and you won’t get hit
5. You don’t seem to learn so they have to beat you
6. That’s the only way black kids learn is through a beating
7. So what. Grow up.
8. Stop the whining and toughen up you’re too soft and sensitive
9. Everybody gets hit why should you be any different
10. If they didn’t love you they wouldn’t beat you
11. Be good and act right and you won’t get beat. Now shut up and get out of my face.
12. They are not there to be your friend. They are there to be your parent
13. I got beat when I was a child and I turned out fine
14. Pray about it and God will fix it

Notice that the authorities were never called to make any kind of an official report for the kids.

Tomika was shamed by the church with the pastor justifying what happened to Tomika based on his own limited experience.

The situation was not investigated and Tomika’s allegations were taken as a light joke.

The School

After getting nowhere with Christians Tomika and Will continue to be abused by the parents. Tomika gets expelled from school. Upon being expelled the principal asks what is the problem. Tomika tells him the truth. The following happens between her and principal.

1. She is not believed (This is the number 1 complaint from abused children)
2. “You are a brat and deserved every beating you got”
3. “Why didn’t you call the police. If it was that bad you would have done that. You didn’t so therefore you are lying” (Being called a liar is the number 2 complaint from abused children)
4. Her parents are upstanding citizens in the community and “your lies are too damaging”
5. Told that she is just mad about chores or something and she’s making these lies up and she needs to stop (If an adult feels a teen or child is making up lies like this then the adult needs to seek help and find out why the child would lie like this)
6. The principal says he was beat too as a child and now he’s a good person because of it
7. Maybe she should go to church and talk to the pastor about it
8. “Do you have any proof?”
9. “A little discipline never hurt anybody”
10. “Act right and you won’t get hit”

Tomika screams at the top of her lungs that she was raped. The principal does not believe her and simply responds by saying.

“Do what your parents say and you won’t get into trouble! And stop these lies!”

Again Tomika is shamed and her abuse is downplayed by someone else’s limited experience. Tomika still does not get the help she needs to be removed from that situation.

The Runaway

Tomika is told to return home which places her back into the hands of the abuser that she’s trying to escape. Tomika decides to run away from home.

The parents filed a missing persons report and learned that Tomika had told the church what happened. The parents denied the allegations and turned their anger on to younger brother Will. Will was warned with a sound beating not to tell anyone what happened to his sister or what was happening to him. Will turned from being bullied to being the bully. Will has now been labeled a trouble maker by the church and school. Will has been told he’s following in the steps of his wayward lying sister.

Will and Tomika’s parents have mental problems that have not been addressed. The people who raised these two more than likely have them too. The parents learned from the grandparents that abusing the children is the correct thing to do. Generational abuse is never questioned and it should be.

The grandparents are invited over as reinforcements to make sure that Will doesn’t “Air Family Laundry” like his sister did to the church. The Grandparents sit back and instigate while the parents physically manhandle Will.

The Truth

Will goes to school and tells his principal what happened to his sister and him. His principal calls the police and files the report against the parents. Will is removed from the home and the parents charged.

The parents say “I was just doing what was done to me” and “I didn’t think I was doing anything wrong” and “The kids are lying” and Kids need discipline. That’s what I thought I was doing”

The grandparents, the Pastor and Tomika’s principal face no charges either even though they had information and did not report as they received it. The grandparents joined in with the abuse and Will reported it but still no charges are filed because it was up to the parents to stop the grandparents from abusing Will.

Grandparents are treated as a third party because they are not the initial guardian for the child.

The Finding

The police find Tomika at some man’s house and bring her in for questioning. Tomika breaks down and tells them that she informed the church and the school and they called her a liar. When asked why she didn’t call the police Tomika says she was scared. She had been threatened. She went to the church and school hoping they would call. She was afraid if her father found out she called she would be killed. The church and the school failed her.

Biblical View of Children

During Biblical times children were seen as property much like the women. A man could do anything he wanted to including killing them and nothing was said because he owned them. Children had no rights and were treated like chattel. Children could be bought and sold in a minutes notice.

Applying a 2000 year old text to 2017 and demanding that children adhere to antiquated rules of being ‘property’ is not only delusional but also purposely misleading.

Honor your father and mother was aimed at property.

How is the black church promoting child abuse?

Black churches are still under that “Children are seen not heard” rule. If a child is making noise or anything of the sort then he/she is to shut it up.

Children making allegations of abuse against parents in the church are seen as demon ridden or satan has got a hold of him/her and they need to be prayed for to stop the lies.

The church does the following if a child makes an allegation.

1. Quoting Bible verses instead of calling the authorities when a child confesses to an someone in the church
2. Using the bible verse spare the rod spoil the child
3. Choosing tithes over saving abused children in the church
4. If the abuser is the pastor, assistant pastor, deacon, or some high person in the church they side with that person so the church doesn’t have a black eye in the media
5. Following the tradition in the black community of excessive abuse over absolutely nothing.

Example: 5 year old David sneezes during prayer and receives a punch in the stomach.

In the black community pastors hold power, prestige, and are honored. They receive gifts and are praised. It is thought he was called by God personally to preach. He is closer to God then everybody else and can speak to him directly and get faster answers. He’s supposed to be smarter and is looked up to. By default he’s supposed to have more because he is personally blessed by the hand of God himself. Therefore, fancy cars and big houses are not questioned. To become a pastor means you will have wealth in a matter of months.

What the pastor says goes because he has absolute authority over the church. To debate, question, or quiz him on any subject is seen as disrespectful, out of line and you need to conform, reform, straighten up and fly right or else find a new church because this isn’t working out.

The wife is always ten times worse than him. The pastor’s kids are the worst behaved bunch in the congregation.

The stupid saying on that is “The pastor is so close to God that Satan has to use pastors kids to get to him”

No. They are spoiled brats and nobody ever says no to them so they act up as they please. If anybody says no to them or reports them for bad behavior it’s not taken seriously because the pastors kids have the highest ranking in the church. They have no boundaries up or down.

It is traditionally acceptable in the black community to abuse children.

Using Bible verses to condone or justify hitting or beating a child is a horrible idea. Children in the Bible were seen as property, slave workers, and in general got no respect except for one verse.

Matthew 18:6

6 “If anyone causes one of these little ones—those who believe in me—to stumble, it would be better for them to have a large millstone hung around their neck and to be drowned in the depths of the sea.

I would love to see this for child abusers.

The black church encourages abuse of children in the church by hiding behind the Bible with the following Bible verses:

Proverbs 13:24 -Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them. (This is the number 1 verse used to abuse a child)

Proverbs 19:18-Discipline your children, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to their death.

Proverbs 22:15-Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far away.

Proverbs 23:13-[ Saying 13 ] Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish them with the rod, they will not die.

Proverbs 29:15-A rod and a reprimand impart wisdom, but a child left undisciplined disgraces its mother.

Proverbs 29:17-Discipline your children, and they will give you peace; they will bring you the delights you desire.

Ephesians 6:2 -“Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise

Exodus 20:12 -“Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the Lord your God is giving you.

Proverbs 22:15-Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far away.
Proverbs 19:18 -Discipline your son, for there is hope; do not set your heart on putting him to death.

Proverbs 22:6 -Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Proverbs 23:13-14 -Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol. (Sheol is from the Torah. It is a hot place underground where the soul goes to purify before the next step)

Colossians 3:20 -Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

The Church’s Responsibility

The church legally has no responsibility to do anything if a child reports abuse. I think they should. Most black churches are not equipped with therapists and do not have any rules in place for children complaining of abuse. The child is not listened to and labeled a liar or “Satan got a hold of him”

Child abuse is not the church’s main focus. Saving souls and collecting tithes is the church’s main focus.

But here’s my question.

How can black churches promote saving souls when the smallest souls are ignored?

Saving a soul should not mean just making sure you get to heaven after meeting a quota for tithes. A child’s soul can be saved by reporting abuse to the police and getting immediate help for that child. No child should have to live in an abusive situation and be forced to keep a secret like that all because the pastor doesn’t know what to do when he’s faced with a child that’s been violated by your favorite church member.

What is it going to take to get through to these black churches that children are just as important as tithes??

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July 31, 2017 · 6:00 am

Behind The Curtain – Belief Systems and the Black Church

This will eventually be a YouTube Series

Part 1

Mental Illness in the Black Community and why ‘help’ is not sought

The top 5 reasons black people do not go to therapy are as follows:

1. Part 1 The Church
2. Part 2 Attached Stigma
3. Part 3 Perceptions
4. Part 4 Family
5. Part 5 Finances

Part 1 The Church

The Black church is a business. A business needs money. Tithes bring in the money. If someone is attending church who feels overwhelmed, or feels as though they need additional mental help the black church discourages the member from receiving help by running a guilt trip using religion and the perceived punishment of Jesus as a shield.

This is how it works:
Sister Pam is the sole survivor of a car accident where her child, mother, and sister died. Sister Pam went to the triple funeral in a wheelchair and my never walk again. Sister Pam is having suicidal thoughts and survivors guilt. She’s also having flashbacks of the accident. She wants to go to a therapist but is urged against it by the church.

Why?

Here are the reasons:
1. She may stop attending church which means she won’t tithing which means the church will lost at least $1.
2. She’s supposed to trust in Jesus and pray about it and all the bad feelings will just go away upon mentioning Jesus name.
3. If she goes to therapy then she’s not trusting Jesus. If she can’t trust Jesus then she needs to find another church (finding another church is discouraged because they don’t want to lose members who may tithe. It is an empty threat.)
4. If Sister Pam is still feeling bad after a week then she’s not praying hard enough.
5. Satan has a hold of her and she must rebuke him. Satan is giving her the flashbacks.

Part 2 Attached Stigma

Sister Pam won’t go to therapy because of the stigma attached in the black community.
There are preconceived ideas, learned behavior, and flawed belief systems in the black community. Even if Sister Pam wants to go to therapy she will still resist because of her flawed belief system.

Seeking professional help in the black community is seen as the following:

1. Jesus won’t like it.
2. Therapy is for white people.
3. If you see a therapist that means you’re crazy. If people find out that you are crazy they will look down on you. Once that happens you are ostracized from the black community and labeled as ‘goofy’.
4. She believes in the preconceived idea that faith and love of Jesus is the only thing to stop her from suicide and help her recover from the sudden loss of her family and make her walk again.
5. She believes is she goes to therapy that she will be ‘acting white’ and will be shunned by the black community.
6. Her family and community programmed her to believe these things and if she detours from them then she is not the upstanding Christian they think she is and she will embarrass the church.
7. Discussing your feelings is a sign of weakness.
8. Satan wants her to turn against Jesus and the church by seeking professional help.

Part 3 & 4 Perceptions and Family

What does Sister Pam’s family say about Pam’s mental condition.
Sister Pam is angry. She keeps crying and asking “Why me Lord? Why me!” She may never be able to walk again but she doesn’t care about that. She does care about never seeing her child again, or be able to hug her mother or celebrate her sister’s birthday. Sister Pam has turned to drinking, cussing, and internet gambling. She is truly depressed and talks of ‘offing’ herself often. Her family agrees with the church.

Pam should do the following according to her family and the church:

1. Pray harder
2. Appreciate that she made it out alive
3. Trust Jesus
4. Do not go to counseling it will embarrass the family
5. Do not talk about therapist or seeking mental help from the white people because all they want is money
6. Her family doesn’t want people thinking she’s ‘crazy’
7. Sister Pam needs to just grow up
8. She’s not rebuking Satan hard enough he’s still rearing his head. She must crush him by claiming and forcefully yelling Jesus name.

Sister Pam buys a gun. She doesn’t like what she’s thinking. She goes to therapy anyway and decides that the family and the church are the ones who need get right with God and not her. She tells them she’s going no matter what they say.

This is what Sister Pam faces from her family for her decision:

1. She’s told that If there is family problem then the family is supposed to solve it. Not people outside the family.
2. She is told that she has made the problem worse and it wouldn’t be this bad had she not kept up the silliness.
3. She is the problem and everybody else in the family and church are doing the right thing by praying with the pastor
4. If she just prays hard enough the pain of losing the family will go away
5. She supposed to be strong for everybody else. She’s showing too much weakness by whining and crying all the time.
6. She is letting Satan control her. She has allowed Satan to bring her to this point of turning her back on Jesus with this therapist mess.

Part 5 Finances

How much of a role does finances play in seeking professional therapy in the black community?

A lot of black people have health insurance through their work place and a lot of black people don’t. The ones that do not have health insurance do not have the money to seek out therapist or other professional help. Therefore they don’t go.

The percentage of black people with health insurance that seek mental health is very very low. Therefore, finances are not the issue in the black community as a reason for not seeking help.

The belief system, perceived stigma, being called crazy, being made fun of, and told that you are ‘acting white’ is the deterrent for getting help.

Sister Pam received a large settlement from the insurance company that allowed her to pay for the help she needs. Again, the money is not the issue. She’d much rather have her family.

What does Sister Pam learn in therapy?

1. She finds out that flashbacks go along with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. She finds out that the human brain seeks to make sense of things that don’t make sense.
The accident was not her fault and her brain has not fully comprehended that whole situation. Her brain is functioning the way a brain should function and sadly the flashbacks can continue for years. This has nothing to do with any Satan and prayer will not stop it. Working through therapy and working through the emotions of the accident and losing her family will help the flashbacks. Talking through the feelings will help her as well.
2. She finds out that the church is wrong and racist. Jesus will not be upset because she is taking care of herself physically and mentally. She is not acting white. The church has a picture of a white Jesus on the wall, therefore, they are hypocrites for saying somebody is acting white while worshipping a white Jesus.
3. Therapy is not just for white people and nobody is ‘crazy’ because they need a little extra help getting through a high stress unbearable situation that they did not ask for.
4. Prayer is great but it will not fix what she is going through. She needs extra help from a trained professional. If her church had read the Bible they missed Timothy 2 which clearly states that prayer without works is dead.
5. If her family is that offended that she is doing what she needs to do then maybe she needs to cut them and the church off. This is known as the ‘no contact’ method. She can return to them later if they have that much of an issue and wish to shame her on a daily basis for ‘acting white’.
6. She finds out that you cannot address ‘shame’ by using ‘shame’. Her family and the church continued to shame Sister Pam for natural normal feelings that any normal rational human being would have after going through any tragedy where people around her were killed, dying, or imminent death was approaching.
7. None of this is the act of Satan. It was a very unfortunate accident and she is justified in her human right to be sad and upset at losing family members.
8. She learns that her beliefs are flawed and she eventually feels she’s been lied to and kept in the dark about a bunch of things.

Sister Pam’s Anger at her family and the church

Sister Pam has gone through a range of emotions. She’s suffered a major car accident that placed her in a wheelchair. She had a total of 24 hours to adjust to a totally new way of life that she didn’t ask for. She had no warning on the loss of her family. The church she’s supposed to trust recites Bible verses and degrades her if she speaks of anything other than prayer. Her family is ignorant. She is now faced with changing the way she has thought for most of her life. It’s not easy.

What does Pam do?

Sister Pam does what any clear thinking individual would do in a situation as messed up as this. Quit going to that church. Tell the family the truth and take control of herself instead of them taking control of her. And continue going to the therapist until she reaches a level of acceptance of the situation that is comfortable for her. If the family insists on continuing to shame Pam she must leave and go to a facility where they are not allowed to visit unless they are there to help.

What is the family’s reaction?

1. Blame the therapist
2. Blame Satan for taking over Sister Pam
3. Blame white people. Why? There is no reason to blame white people. Its just a fail safe when no other option is available. White people are the built in fall guy after Satan has run out.
4. Pray for her to do the right thing and stop shaming the family
5. In long shot, come to the facility and help and do what she wants them to do. (They would never do this but its a nice thought)

The Black Church Can Really Mess Somebody Up

I made up that whole situation about Sister Pam. She does not exist in real life but I know plenty of Sister Pam’s in reality who have lost faith in the church for these very reasons. Some people have actually cut their family off all together because of the church and how the church acts.

The church uses shame against those who don’t fit the mold of ‘just pray about it’ or ‘trust Jesus and only Jesus’. Reciting Bible verses to answer a question is always a sign of being under fear. Fear of what? Who knows. Using shame to promote more shame is a vicious circle that a lot of black Christians fall into.

“You cannot solve problems with the same level of consciousness that created them.” David Icke Humans and Blinded by Belief Systems

Nobody asks or wants to be in a life threatening situation. Nor does anyone want to go through a horrid nightmare of suddenly losing those you love. The statement above clearly states that if God put you in that situation and you pray to God to take you out of the situation he just put you in- well…..that makes no sense does it.

Everybody has the right to take care of themselves mentally and physically how they see fit. If some people choose to pray about everything that is fine. If others choose therapy they should not be shamed, put down, demeaned, or treated poorly for their choice. However, that is what is happening in most black churches if someone chooses therapy instead of prayer. You can be a Christian and go to therapy.

There are enough therapists in America who are perfectly willing to promote time to a church and provide mental help for members who feel they need extra help. Promoting time means that nobody has to pay. A church should be about helping people how they need and want to be helped. Not the church forcing Bible verses on someone with the remedy of ‘Love Jesus and Rebuke Satan’.

How many black pastors have committed suicide after church? Or killed their family or other church members?

A church should never throw ‘shade’ or be that judgmental to the detriment of its members all in the name of tithes or Jesus.

Hiding behind the Bible or using religion to justify a flawed belief or thinking error that results in destroying someone else is wrong.

These black churches need to pull it together!

**This is not aimed at all black churches. It is aimed at most black churches. Especially the ones who feel that tithes are more important than the members and those churches who hide behind the Bible while promoting fear as a means of controlling members into self destruction**

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July 27, 2017 · 6:00 am

Behind The Curtain Blog Series – Ousting The Black Church

Over the next few weeks I will be rolling out the Behind The Curtain series of posts that will go through the end of August.

Behind the Curtain represents Black Churches and the shenanigans that go on in the pulpit. These Churches defy the Bible behind the backs of the trusting parishioners.

Metaphorically they’ve pulled a curtain to hide the truth much like the man in The Wizard Of Oz.

Therefore this series is appropriately named, ‘Behind The Curtain’

This is aimed at corrupt black churches who do any and everything for their own personal gain and who bank on ignorance in the pulpit and the congregation.

If your church is not doing these things then it does not pertain to you.

If you find yourself being offended or becoming upset about what I post about the black church, then, well……..maybe you better check yourself and your church.

I will be address how the Black Church encourages ‘hazing’ on black children through controlled child abuse. And how child abuse is seen as a right of passage because someone is born black. Its expected and accepted and never questioned no matter how damaging it is to the child.

I will also address how the Black Church discourages black people from seeking mental help and encourages unhealthy marriages while ignoring mental issues in the maraige.

I will also oust Black churches for manipulations of tithes, religious beliefs, as well as, spiritual abuse. I will expose cultish behavior including manipulation of fear, hell, and finances which are considered more important than saving souls.

I will also oust outrageous belief systems and how emotions are manipulated. Along with the misuse of Jesus, God, and twisting the Bible for thier own personal gain.

Why am I doing this?

Because the issues I just mentioned in the sentences above are ‘taboo’ in the black community. Nobody wants to address it head on or talk about how dangerous the black church is to the black community.

The Black Church will deny everything I say because I am telling their game.

Its easier to just go along with the flow and punish people like me who go against the grain with a different perspective. I’m labeled as a ‘non-believer’ because I dare to question the logic and the validity of these churches who rehash antiquated notions.

Everybody has the right to question what they are asked to support and believe in. Asking questions does not mean you are a non-believer. It just means you are taking the subject seriously instead of following tradition or following out of fear.

I will also address the Black Church blaming White people for no reason other than  they’ve run out of options to blame themselves.

I will back up what I say with Bible verses.

I will address and say everything I need to say without one word of profanity.

What is the point?

I have major issues with a non-profit 501c3 abusing their status and collecting money each week on false doctrines recited with fears and lies to a willing congregation who fails to question reality each Sunday. Plus, they don’t bother to read the Bible for themselves otherwise they would figure out they are being lied to.

 

Below are the 4 titles that I will be addressing in several detailed posts:

Behind the Curtain Part 1 – Belief Systems And The Black Church

Behind the Curtain Part 2 – Child Abuse And How The Black Church Promotes It

Behind the Curtain Part 3 – The Black Church Promoting Unhealthy Marriages

Behind the Curtain Part 4 – Religious Manipulation In The Black Church

What do I expect?

I expect to be attacked by black Christians because I am not only challenging their beliefs; I am flat out defying everything they’ve been taught by mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, and the pastor.

I am not saying what they want to hear and they will have 1 of two reactions when everything is said and done.

  1. Attack me for not being a good black person.
  2. Start asking questions about the points I’ve brought up which will lead them to this question, “Well if what I’ve been taught is not accurate then what is accurate?”

I’m not out to plant seeds of doubt in anybody’s mind. I’m simple stating the obvious and ousting a truth that needs to be talked about instead of hidden behind a pulpit.

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July 24, 2017 · 6:00 am

Question. Are Tanning Booths Racist? Answer. No.

Q. What brought this question on?

A. There is a known full KKK participating card carrying member in Kentucky who we’ll call Mike.

Mike goes to the tanning booth. Mike also wears sheets and burns crosses.

Some people question Mike’s motives at the tanning booth.

If he’s going to the tanning booth for brown skin and then why is he participating in the Klan?

While Mike’s behavior seems confusing others associate this type of scenario with tanning booths being a form of racism.

Tanning booths are not racist nor are they a form of any racism

Here are the reasons why:

Black people go to the tanning booth. A particular black male in Alabama, who is Blue-Black,  goes to the tanning  booth in Birmingham. Everybody asked him why.

**Definition of Blue-Black: A Blue-Black person is a black person that has skin so black that in the sun he actually lights up blue.**

There is a black female that goes to the tanning booth. She’s not blue black but she is dark skinned enough where it does not make sense for her to go to the tanning booth.

Tanning has been going on for thousands of years. Before the Klan was invented. Before tanning booths were invented. Before Orange Presidents were invented. People world wide tanned either on purpose by laying out or by accident by working in the sun. Any skin in any sun for any amount of time is going to get darker or have some effect.

Black people do have sunburns and lighter skinned black people need to wear sunscreen for skin protection.

Why are black people going to the tanning booth?

The black male I spoke about faced major backlash from the black community for going to the tanning booth. The manager of the tanning booth had actually refused him at first. Her point was he was wasting time and resources on something he obviously didn’t need. He already had a big tan. His point was if he wanted to pay the same price as everybody else to go into the tanning booth then she should let him. What difference does it make to her as long as he’s paying money? She was labeled as a racist and he was labeled as an Uncle Tom Sell Out.

The short story on him was that he hated black people starting with his mother. He had a white girlfriend. He denounced everything black including his own obvious skin. This is what caused the backlash from the black community. In the end he got a lawyer involved who talked to the tanning booth manager to get her to agree to let him in. As silly as this sounds he went to the tanning bed to try and get a tan.

I know what you’re thinking. The answer to your question is, NO, he did not look any different when he emerged from the tanning bed it had no effect. He was still Blue-Black.

 

The black girl that went to the tanning booth felt she was too light skinned. Instead of sitting in the sun she wanted to go into the tanning booth. She paid her money and went in without any kind of drama. Eyebrows were raised and people did stare but nobody really said anything to her. And no, she didn’t look any different when she came out.

The moral of that story is that tanning booths have no effect on black people.

Now we come back to Mike the tanning KKK member

Does he have the right to tan? Yes!

Is it racist for him to tan? No!

Does it make any sense at all? Well that depends on who you ask.

A KKK member going to the tanning booth makes just as much sense as black people going to the tanning booth.

Both are illogical, and the behavior is odd, but it’s their personal choice and who are we to make it for them?

I won’t be going but hey, more power to them if it brings them happiness.

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April 5, 2017 · 8:00 am