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Christine and Millie McCoy. Black Siamese Twins Black History Month Ignores.

BLACK HISTORY MONTH

I have a serious problem with this and yes I am Black. The only thing I actually like about Black History month is that it’s not being called “African American” History month. Because that would be “stupider”.

TWO REASONS IT SUCKS TO BE A SIAMESE TWIN

  1. DEATH

Your half could be perfectly healthy and the other half of you dies unexpectedly. Now you have to die too within an hour and its not even your fault that you have to die. It’s the other half that’s stuck to you. Even if you do an emergency separation surgery you still die because it will take too long to (a) separate you and (b) if you have shared organs you better hang it up! Man that is depressing just thinking about it.

2. PRISON TIME

Let’s say y’all are at the movies. The person on the other side of your connected twin is a biggo jerk who keeps rattling potato chip bags and popping plastic drink bottles and talking loudly on the phone, with the speaker phone, and the phone is lighting up with their picture, and they have on light up glasses in the theatre.

Your Siamese twin stabs and kills him because yall paid hard earned money to listen to the movie and not this fool and his phone and those glasses were just silly. NOW you’ve missed the movie, you got arrested, and you have to go to prison for murder and you didn’t even have nothing to do with it! You’re innocently connected. Aw that sucks!!

What does this have to do with Christine and Millie McCoy?

Nothing. I just thought about those things and figured I’d share my thoughts.

Why have we not heard about these black Siamese twins during black history month?

Because BHM is all about bashing and hashing and rehashing the victim/victimizer stereotype between white people and black people. Naming a month and continuing to pour the same dirty water on the same gas fire does nothing except keep the damaging fire going. Why not go ahead and put a fan next to it and watch it burn faster.

You can’t have black history month without white people. And you can’t have American history without black people. Never mind Native Americans, Hispanics, Asians, or anybody like that.

If black history month actually had some substance I wouldn’t have to have this website to expose what that month refuses to acknowledge!

Now that I got that out of my system

Christine and Millie McCoy

July 11, 1851 – October 8, 1912

On a slave plantation in Welches Creek, North Carolina Jacob and Monimia McKoy had seven children before the Siamese twins showed up. The parents were African and mixed with Native and African. The girls were born fused at the base which caused them to be at a 90-degree angle to each other.

A showman bought them at 10 months old thus starting a lifetime of exhibiting their body. He eventually sold them for $1000. During their career of being bought and sold the highest recording price for selling them was $40,000.

They were in various road shows, Circuses, special engagements and Queen Victoria brought them to Buckingham Palace in 1871 to give them jewelry.

The twins pay was so high because patrons were charged extra, as high as fifty cents or more, just to see them.

They were billed as “the Carolina Twins” , “the celebrated African United Twins.” , “Two-Headed Girl”,  “Two-Headed Nightingale,”

The twins learned five different languages. They played the guitar, the piano, sang and published poems and autobiography books.

When slavery ended in 1863 their pay increased to $600 a week.

In 1869 they wrote a final book called History and Medical Description of the Two-Headed Girl which boosted their popularity.

By the early 1900’s the girls weighed 170 pounds. Their popularity decreased and they went to live on a farm their father left them.

In 1912 Millie was diagnosed with tuberculosis. Christine was not. They had to go to a Sanitarium where Christine still was unaffected.

Millie succumbed to tuberculosis and Christine was still alive. They could not be separated while still alive. It was decided that Christine should be given large doses of Morphine to speed up her death which was imminent. After 17 hours and the governors approval to go through with the morphine Christine died.

In Whiteville North Carolina you will find their double grave with an inscription written about them.

So why is black history month ignoring them?

Because it does not fit their profile of victim/victimizer.

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October 16, 2017 · 8:00 am

Black Women In The 1920’s Suffragette Movement and The Right To Vote

Q. What was stopping women from voting in the 1920’s?

A. Men.

Q. What was stopping black women from voting in the 1920’s?

A. They were women.

Q. What was stopping black women in the south from voting?

A. Jim Crowe

Q. So if women earned the right to vote did that include black women under Jim Crowe?

A. Yes.

Q. Did black women in the south vote under Jim Crowe?

A. They tried. As did all black people in the south. Black people and white women were met with opposition from males who felt neither group had the right to vote.

What is Jim Crowe?

Jim Crowe were laws drawn in the southern united states forbidding black and whites to do anything together such as: Ride in the same cart on the train, drink from same water fountain, use the same bathroom, eat at the same restaurant, go to the same church, attend the same schools, buy from the same grocery store unless the coloreds went to the back window, live in the same neighborhood, and so on.

The term Jim Crowe refereed to a pre vaudeville act in the 1820’s when a man in black face would come out and dance and sing. The south adopted that image and name to apply to the laws.

Why could women not vote until August 18th 1920?

Men felt that women were not smart enough to vote. Men felt is was the woman’s place to stay at home cooking and cleaning and not voting. Men felt women were out of line and over stepping bounds by asking to do something equal to a man. Men felt they would lost power if women voted.

Did this include Black men?

Yes. Black men were granted the right to vote on March 3, 1870 and their votes counted. Women still were not given the right to vote. Black men went to vote and were harassed, beaten, killed, spit at and other horrible things. Due to the challenges black men faced they had no time to worry about the black woman. The black men had to come together and exercise their right by law to vote in peace.

 

Who got this women’s voting party started?

Most are familiar with Susan B Anthony. However, there was a women before her that actually put her boot down in men’s faces in the 1777’s. That woman was Abigail Smith Adams. President John Quincy Adams wife. She brought the issue directly to her husband and was basically told to shut up. Abby responded with “women will not hold ourselves bound by any laws which we have no voice.” She was still told to shut up. But she tried.

 

List of some of the Black women suffragettes in history. There were more.

Frances Ellen Watkins Harper. 1825-1911.

Frances was born a free black woman in Baltimore. 1858, before Rosa Parks, she refused to give up her seat in a trolley to a white person and there was a problem. In 1859 she became the first black women to publish a short story in a publication. In addition to writing poetry she was a slave abolitionist and fought for women and the colored women’s right to vote. She participated in this cause after visiting the south and seeing the appalling conditions that black women were living in.

 

Anna Julia Cooper. 1858 – 1964.

Her mother was a slave and her father the slave master. She was born North Carolina. She was freed at the age of 6. She became educated at the age of 9 at a school for newly freed slaves. She became involved in the women’s suffrage movement. She had this to say, “Only the BLACK WOMAN can say when and where I enter in the quiet undisputed dignity of my womanhood, without violence or special patronage; then and there the whole Negro race enters with me.”

 

Ida B Wells 1862-1931

Born a slave in Mississippi. Parents were Republicans. Bought a first class train ticket ony to be told to go to the colored cart with no refund. She took the train to court and won her case. She began working on the National Equal Rights League which resulted in the protest at Wilson’s Presidential innuageration. She was told by Alice Paul to march in the back of the 1913 inauguration crash and have the coloreds stay in the back. Ida did not follow instructions and marched along side Alice Paul. .” Ida attended the 1913 mob on President Wilson’s innaugeration. She took with her some members of her Alpha Suffrage Club of Chicago which she founded.

 

Sojourner Truth. 1797 – 1883

Born a slave and originally named Isabelle Baumfree. She and her parents were soon purchased and taken to New York. Known for her Ain’t I a woman speech in Akron Ohio in 1851. She fought during and after slavery for the negro women’s rights and equality including the right to vote.

Famous Quotes

“I feel that I have the right to have just as much as a man. There is a great stir about colored men getting their rights, but not a word about the colored women; and if colored men get their rights, and colored women not theirs, the colored men will be masters over the women, and it will be just as bad as it was before”

Ain’t I A Woman?

“That man over there says that women need to be helped into carriages, and lifted over ditches, and to have the best place everywhere. Nobody ever helps me into carriages, or over mud-puddles, or gives me any best place! And ain’t I a woman? Look at me! Look at my arm! I have ploughed and planted, and gathered into barns, and no man could head me! And ain’t I a woman? I could work as much and eat as much as a man – when I could get it – and bear the lash as well! And ain’t I a woman? I have borne thirteen children, and seen most all sold off to slavery, and when I cried out with my mother’s grief, none but Jesus heard me! And ain’t I a woman?”

 

Nannie Helen Burroughs 1879 – 1961

Born in Virginia to former slaves and moved to Louisville Kentucky where she became a secretary. Was a part of the women’s industrial club. In the early 1900’s she fought for women’s right to vote. At some point after 1947 she moved to Washington DC where she worked for Herbert Hoover.

 

Elizabeth Piper Ensley 1848 – 1919

Born in the carribean and moved to boston in the 1870’s. 1890’s moved to Colorado. Fought to put the women’s suffrage on the Denver Colorado ballot.

Timeline of most of the women’s suffrage events

1777 Abigail Adams. Wife and mother of presidents John Quincy Adams and John Adams Jr.

1792 Mary Wollstonecraft was having none of it. She published a book called Vindication of the Rights of Women in England. Women loved her book. Men still refused women the right to vote.

1836 The Grimke Sisters were against slavery and for women’s rights. They were outspoken, challenging, and were treated badly with profanity and eventually thrown in jail.

1840 London. Lucretia Mott and Elizabeth Cady tried to level the playing field with women and had some success. Women were still denied the vote but these ladies got the ball rolling.

1844 The state constitution stated the following: “One. Every white male citizen of the United States, of age twenty-one years, who shall have been a resident of this state one year would be entitled to vote.”

1848 Elizabeth Cody Stanton went to the Seneca Falls convention and caused a scene with Lucretia Mott. They got their point across, however, women still could not vote.

1861 Susan B Anthony and the Civil War. Susan was the most vocal and came with serious ammunition to solidify all the women that came before her. Until her death in 1906 she made it known that women will have the right to vote. She also made this statement in reference to the black man having the right to vote but not women. “I will cut off this right arm of mine before I will ever work or demand the ballot for the Negro and not the woman.”

1867 Slavery is over and now black women have entered the equation for rights to vote as women. Thus beginning a 52 year debate on all women regardless of color voting along with men.

1870 Black men were given the right to vote. Black women were not given the right to vote. Not because they were black. No women were allowed to vote.

Black men were harassed while voting. As a result black men had to fight for other black men’s enforcement of voting which left black women without their voice. In turn, black women and white women had no choice but to come together as women and take on the guys.

1870 All women showed up to the polls and cast their vote only to have it thrown away and not counted.

1872 Susan B Anthony, Grimke Sisters, and a host of women were thrown in jail for voting. They continued their cause.

1878 Women introduce their suffrage movement to congress.

1884 through 1900 women protest, debate, march, hold signs, and yell at men for the right to vote.

1913 Alice Paul organized a women’s march and messed up the New President Wilson’s inauguration with a flash mob march demanding the right to vote. Eye witness Mary Walton described the scene in 1913 “The violence erupted minutes after the parade began. The crowd broke through steel cables and spilled into the street. Men, many of them drunk, spit at the marchers and grabbed their clothing, hurled insults and lighted cigarettes, snatched banners and tried to climb floats. Police did little to keep order. Observed one of Paul’s supporters, ‘I did not know men could be such fiends.’ ”

Black women were told to march in the back of the procession due to a recent attack on a black man that struck fear in that community. Black women ignored that and walked side by side with white suffragettes. Nothing was said.

1913 through 1919 women continue to invade congress with the right to vote.

August 18th 1920 the 19th Amendment is passed. All women now have the right to vote.

What Abigail started in 1777 came to be in 1920 with the help of hundreds and hundreds of women along the way. After 143 years of fighting the issue women finally had the right to vote.

 

 

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September 1, 2017 · 6:00 am

I got 10% of my anger out at the black church

Having grown up in the black church and witnessing the shenanigans that go on in and in front of the pulpit and being told, “That’s just the way it is” and being forced to be complacent about the corruption pushed and shoved on to unsuspecting parishioners is something I just could not get with.

Part of my spiritual cleansing for 10 years was not to attend church at all and I was much much happier without that type of drama.

The part that really got me, was me, telling the church I had been abused and they said “just pray about it”. Authorities should have been called. But instead I was told to “Trust Jesus and he’ll stop the pain and punish the abuser.”

That, and that alone fueled a life long anger and distrust in the church. Not to mention distrust of the word of the Bible.

The pain didn’t stop and neither did the abuser. Others were abused from the same abuser and others were told the same thing. “Just pray about it.”

Any church that hides behind the Bible in the name of Jesus who purposely does not protect the children is not a church at all. Its hell.

Children have underdeveloped brains and can only go by what adults tell them to believe. I was led down an incorrect path by the ever loving church.

That was my basis behind my posts on the corruption of the black church.

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August 29, 2017 · 6:00 am

Conclusion of The Black Church and Religious Manipulation

I was just told the most bizarre, craziest, wildest theory of them all by a black church fanatic on Facebook.

Here it goes:

“If you don’t understand that you need religion to get to God then you don’t believe in God.”

Huh? What? Is this person serious right now? Please tell me I’m on Facebook candid camera! That is worth the laugh right there!

I’m glad she said this because this error in delusional thinking is exactly what is wrong with the black church in one sentence.

#1. Religion NEEDS God. However, God does not NEED religion.
#2. GOD created the world. MAN created religion.
#3. You Cannot have God without Satan. You Cannot have Satan without God. Either both exist or both do not. One cannot stand alone. Otherwise, there is no need for the other.
#4. God and religion have absolutely nothing to do with one or the other.
#5. Man has attached God to religion as a means of controlling other men.
And guess what. ITS WORKING!!!

Should I even mention the fact that when God created the world there was no religion?

Who did God worship?

Who did Adam and Eve worship? They didn’t go to church and they didn’t tithe.

The first mention of a synagogue is in Psalms.

The first mention of a temple is in Corinthians.

All through the Old Testament everybody spoke directly to God. And God spoke directly to the people. They were used to it. They gave gifts and sacrifices to God.

The New Testament introduces Jesus as the way to God.

So let me get this straight!

All those people who didn’t know or hadn’t heard of Jesus, and didn’t go to church until Pslams, didn’t know God because there was no religion?

All those people around the world who were born before the New Testament and had never heard of Jesus went to hell because they didn’t attend church and didn’t go through Jesus to get to God?

Even though they were speaking to God every hour on the hour directly? They still could not get to heaven because they didn’t know Jesus.

The Old Testament proves that you don’t need a religion or a building called church in order to get to God. He spoke to them directly!

People don’t read the Bible and therefore don’t know this.

For the love of God will black people please read the Bible!

Religion is:
A code of moral values usually based around the culture.
A set of beliefs usually based on the culture.
Acting a certain way to gain acceptance from the group that is usually based on the culture.
A set of rituals such as recited words, foods, customs, and stories to enforce moral values.
A set of actions in some sort of sequence that is to be done in a frequency such as kneeling in a certain direction daily, eating a certain food weekly, or doing a certain gesture at a time of day or upon hearing certain words, and attaching an image of some sort to enforce the idea of the value.

Religion always involves a belief that an exact routine must be followed in a certain way in order to obtain a particular result. It does not have to be associated with church or a God.

I know that it is very hard for some people to separate religion from God. Yes. It can be done and should be.

Examples:

“I know he wasn’t late to work. He religiously gets up at 6 am to go to work. He’s always on time.”

The reward for his routine of action:

If he doesn’t go to work he won’t get paid. Therefore he must honor that routine in order to keep the end result. If he stops going to work the reward goes away. Therefore, he can’t miss work.

“I know Heather wasn’t the one that forgot to clean the oven. She cleans that oven religiously every other day.”

Heather’s reward for her daily actions?

Heather wants a clean oven. In order for the oven to be clean she must do this on a regular basis without fail.

Religion and God are two separate things.

God did not create religion. That is where folks get twisted up.

God

Creator of the world. Punisher of wrong doers. Rewarding the good doers. God balances out right from wrongs. God is the natural balance system of our whole existence.

God=Life

Life = a balance of good and bad for every living thing on earth regardless of religion.

Here is where the trouble starts with perceptions of God.

1. God only loves those who love him.
This is so wrong on so many levels. This is a man-made interpretation with absolute manipulation.

2. God helps those who help themselves.
This is also misguided for so many reasons. Anybody in the world, no matter their religion or lack thereof, who does anything for or against themselves will get back whatever energy they put into it.

The phrase implies if you don’t believe in God then he won’t help you. I’ve seen plenty of successful atheist who didn’t believe in God and they are doing much better than the judgmental Christian.

Example:
Michael studies hard to be an engineer. Michael is a successful engineer. Michael makes good money being an engineer.

Is this God helping Michael who helped himself or did Michael apply the energy and time he needed to in order to be successful?

Lisa is a thief and a liar. Lisa stole a car. Lisa goes to jail.

Is this an example of God not helping Lisa because she didn’t help herself? She helped herself to a car? She met her goal of obtaining a car. It wasn’t hers. This is clearly an example of Lisa getting what she deserved because of the kind of energy she put into it.

Michael and Lisa are both Christians.

3. If you don’t go to church every Sunday God won’t bless you.
Wrong. You reap what you sow. Going to church or not going to church will not stop you from getting back in life what you put into it.

Reaping what you sow
This idea is not exclusive to any church, religion, group, or book. The idea of everybody ‘getting what they deserve’ or ‘Karma‘ is just how life works.

If you do good it comes back to you. If you do bad it comes back to you.

A rational logical thinking individual who can decipher right from wrong understands and is able to implement that statement. Someone who is not rational and has no regard for right from wrong understands the statement, however, they just don’t care.

Until the black church actually does the following we will continue to have these confusions and delusions based on half truths:

1. Make black people read the Bible.

I’m not talking about Bible study because in Bible study you only study what the pastor tells you to study for that week.

Bible Study is controlled studying.

2. Teach how life really works
There’s so much focus on Jesus, heaven, God and fear that the whole and true meaning of life is totally left out. Focusing on the end result while ignoring the present is never a good idea. People need help now.

3. Address mental problems that church members are facing now
Stop telling folks to ‘pray about it’ and ‘trust Jesus’. Get them the help they need. We have pastors committing suicide after service. We have deacons that are depressed. We have children in the church that are acting out due to abuse. We have church members who can’t pull it together by themselves and have no idea that they have a mental problem or some other problem.

4. Stop glamourizing the pastor and worshipping him and the first lady
They are no closer to God than anybody else on this earth. The difference between most pastors and parishioners is that the Pastor actually read the Bible and knows you haven’t! He knows the key words to manipulate you in the pew.

5. Stop copying and pasting Bible verses on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Reddit, and all social media.
Copying and pasting Bible verses does not make you more of a Christian. Nor does it prove anything to anybody other than you know how to copy and paste. Atheists, Buddists, non believers, and first graders can copy and paste Bible verses. You are doing nothing special.

6. Stop with the fear. Stop being controlled by fear and intimidation from the pulpit!
“Thank you God for the wake up call!”  and “God woke me up this morning” and asking everybody “Are you saved” is nothing more than manipulative tools based on in order to get a reaction out of someone else. When the reaction is not falling in line and your beliefs are challenged it becomes a problem for you. Not them.

7. Stop being a “Cookie Cutter Christian”

What is a Cookie Cutter Christian?

A CCC is a Christian that’s been beaten and whipped into a cream pulp of batter. Then placed in line with everybody else with the same belief. And molded so that they look and sound exactly the same as the next person in the religion.

No flexibility. No listening to anyone else. They have been conditioned to believe and stay a certain way. Breaking the mold can result in lots of damage from the molder which is the pastor of the church. Molded and stuck in fear.

A CCC is a borderline fanatic or potential cult member. A CCC cannot surround themselves with anyone who does not believe or think as they do for the fear that Satan is trying to use that person to break them out of the mold.

CCC’s do the following:

Run on fear.
Go to church out of fear.
Have to be seen as the perfect Christian so that no judgement can be passed on to them.
Memorize Bible verses to be called up at any time during a conversation whether its relevant or not.
Have to put Jesus into everything even if its buying toilet paper at Kroger.
Always out to save souls.
Get mad during a Bible debate which they usually initiated.
Bent on making you agree with them and their values to they can be seen as the Christian hero in your life.
Vocalize and demonize anyone who is not fitting the Christian mold they are in.
Believe that Jesus was actually born December 25th of we don’t know the year. Just December 25th.
Deny the pagan holiday connection. Especially December 25th.
Deny the pagan connection between Ishtar and Easter.
Deny that the Torah was written before the Bible and that’s what Jesus studied because The Bible was written after Jesus died because he could not have read the Bible because he was still alive
Deny and refuse to believe that the Quran says the same exact thing as the Bible. Especially Sharia Law.
Deny that Leviticus is a re-written version of the Hammurabi codes from King Hammurabi who lived before the Bible was written.
Deny that the first 5 books of the Bible is basically the whole Jewish Torah which was written before the Bible.
Deny that the word Sabbath actually means Saturday.
Deny, deny and deny.

Why to Cookie Cutter Christians continue to deny?

Because they won’t educate themselves. Uneducated people are easy to control. People who know education is there and still refuse to learn are even easier to control because they are choosing to be stupid and allow someone to take advantage of their chosen stupidity.

Phrases that Cookie Cutter Christians use:

“Either you believe or you don’t.”
“Where did you get your information from?”
“If it’s not in the Bible I cannot read or believe it.”
“If you are questioning anything in the Bible it’s because you don’t believe.”
“You don’t believe in God then!”
“To question the Bible is to question God!”
“That’s not what the Bible says!” CCC’s don’t read the Bible so how do they know
“The Lord spoke to me.”
“Pray about it.”
“You didn’t pray hard enough.”
“You must not read your Bible then!” Like they actually read it. Please!
“I love the Lord!”
“My God is good!”
“I have to put Jesus in it!”
“Constantine didn’t do anything!”

If you run into any of the Cookie Cutter Christians do not associate. It’s a battle you’ll never win. Imagine talking to a brick wall. The brick wall represents the CCC’s.

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August 24, 2017 · 6:00 am

Behind The Curtain 2 – The Media and Mental Illness In The Black Community

Unaddressed mental illness in the black community

Section F

The MEDIA

The Media does a poor job of bringing mental health issues in the black community to light. The Media gains ratings and capitalizes on demonizing black people and crime.

The Media presents black people as making a conscious knowing decision to do wrong and participate in crime for enjoyment, thrill, and some positive fulfillment.

That false presentation could not be further from the truth.

The Media discounts any and all facts and evidence that black people committing these crimes may have an untreated mental illness.

This is an unjust misleading representation of the black community as a whole.

We are not carbon copy cookie cutters of each other.

The Media does not differentiate between a person who commits a crime that happens to be black and a non threatening entrepreneur with no jail record who also happens to be black. Black does not = criminal, yet, that is exactly what the media suggests and reinforces day after day.

This whole portrayal is delusional and could not be further from the truth if they tried.

Furthermore there is a misconception of Black on Black crime. Most crimes are committed by someone you know. Black people are around black people more than anyone else. If you go to Mexico you will find Mexican on Mexican crime. If you go to London you will find White people stabbing white people. If you go to China you will find Chinese on Chinese crime. If you go to White America you will find white people killing white people.

The whole notion that black people are the only ones who kill each other is also an illusion. White on white crime is just as high if you look at the stats.

But if the Media is bent on demonizing one group to highlight another then stats can and are twisted to keep the delusion going.

Chicago

Chicago is not the leading city for black people and crime. St. Louis is. But St. Louis is ignored because Chicago is more glamourous and will generate higher ratings.

From what I’ve seen in the black community most of the crime is caused by:

1. Failed parenting
2. Unchecked mental illness
3. Frustration
4. No snitch rule

No Snitch Rule

Its funny how the main ones who adhere to the no snitch rule go straight to the police and snitch as soon as one of their children are killed.

Better yet, they go on TV after their child is killed and ask the non-snitchers to snitch!

Point in case: A young man was killed in Atlanta. His family was firm on the no snitch rule while he was alive. As soon as he was found dead they were begging for people to tell the police information to find the killer of their son.

You die by the sword by which you live and what you fear most will kill you.

Failed parenting

1. Father not in the picture – most likely he may be in jail. And most likely he suffers from some unchecked mental problem.
2. Overcompensating for the father not in the picture – the child does whatever he/she wants without learning consequences for their actions. When the child finally has to answer for their behavior the child is confused. The confused child gets no help from the parent because the parent is enabling the confused child. Therefore, the child does not learn
3. Unchecked mental illness on the child – The child could be showing early signs of dyslexia, aspergers, sociopathy, anti-social personality disorders, mental illness, mind disease and so on. Instead of getting the child the help he/she needs the parent follows the tradition of just beating the child. Beating a child that may have mental illness is not teaching the child anything. It is confusing and does more harm than good
4. Selfish parents– spending money on hair and nails is more important than the child’s education or getting mental help. Poor choices from the parents cause the child to look at joining gangs or the child makes poor choices by going to the wrong crowd
5. Absent parents – Dad already isn’t there and now mommy has to work 3 jobs to take care of the kids. Mommy thinks that giving the child ‘stuff’ and ‘things’ will keep them busy and they won’t notice she’s not there. She may have the best of intentions but what children want is a parent. Not stuff. ‘stuff’ can never take the place of parents
When the news shows young black males who have been caught doing something wrong everybody is quick to judge. But are they judging correctly. Some of these young black men have mental illness and sadly they don’t find out until they are behind bars for a long time.

 

Misconceptions about therapy in the black community

The Media can’t be blamed by itself is the black community is helping to present the false image.

There is a preconception that if you go to a counselor that you are crazy. Therefore, you are shunned, shamed and talked about negatively.

Below are the reasons why black people will not go to therapy even if its free:

Nobody wants to admit there is a problem

The excuse, “everybody is different” is used quite a bit in the black community to justify somebody acting a straight fool because they need mental help

The warning signs are either not known, known and ignored, or excused away by saying the person either has demons, hates Jesus, or Satan has a hold of them and he must be rebuked

Parents do not want to admit there is a problem with their parent, child, or themselves. Because then they have to deal with it.

If a school or any institution brings up the fact that a child has a mental problem the parent either skips town, or files against the school because she is offended that this was said about her child

Selfishness. Getting hair and nails done, or playing basketball, is more important than spending money and time on the child or person’s mental health.

Shame and humiliation. If anybody finds out there is a problem with a family member they run the risk of being talked about and embarrassed in front the community and worse than that, the church. So it’s not talked about to save face for the family.

Cowardice.

The age old phrase, “that’s how God wants him/her to be. If he wanted him/her different he’d a done it”

Extreme ignorance, won’t listen, set in ways, and just not wanting to face reality.

Hide behind religion. “Well we just have to pray on it.”

After a mentally ill person flips out we all hear the following

“I didn’t know”

“He seemed like the perfect gentleman”

“I thought something was wrong but didn’t know what”

“He could get a little wild sometimes but I never would have thought this”

“If I’d know I would have helped”

What needs to be done?

The black community needs to put aside the silliness and start educating people now so that these problems in the community can dissipate.

Domestic Violence

One or both partners have a mental problem that has not been addressed. If mental illness was addressed in high school maybe they will make better choices as they become adults.

 

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August 20, 2017 · 6:00 am

Behind The Curtain – Spiritual Abuse in the Black Church

Part 4

The Black Church makes most of their money by promoting three major fears:

Fear of going to hell

Fear of death

Fear of having no money

 

The Fear of God not loving you is promoted as you doing something wrong. Whatever you did wrong will result in God leaving you to die broke and go to hell. Selling the notion of fear of failure in God’s eyes generates revenue and they have no problem raking in the profits.

If someone is still sitting in the pew unconvinced then the fear must be stepped up to fear of public humiliation in front of the globe which is to take place on judgement day after Gabrielle blows the horn, trumpet or whatever wind instrument he has while Jesus returns. The idea that you will be ousted in front of millions of people should be enough to make you tithe.

Some Black churches that present themselves as cults do the following

The more members you have the more tithes you should receive theoretically. Black churches measure success on 2 things:

1. How big the physical building is
2. How many members are in the church

Like a business they must have a retention crew. They want people to come back and tithe money so something must be offered other than the love of Jesus.

The cult church starts off as a dream church to the victim.

1. They offer the love of Jesus and the grace of God
2. They have an appealing church that’s easy on the eyes
3. The pastor himself will tell you he’s hands on and doesn’t send minions to speak for him. Always accessible. Call or come by anytime.
4. There’s always an assistant pastor that reinforces the pastors intentions as a way of keeping you engaged until they can find a way to hook you in
5. The pastor spotlights you for weeks in front of the church so you really feel special
6. (emotional manipulation begins) They offer to pay all your bills up front and say you don’t have to join.

After you join they say they will take you through classes to get back on your feet if you do what they say.

After you start doing what they say its starts getting weird.

If you address the weirdness they convince you that God delivered them to you as a way of saving you from the awful situation you were in before.

Once you get settled into the brainwashing then they start pouring Bible verses on to you.

To keep you hooked they offer you free food once during the week and once on the weekend.

You will be required to tithe a certain amount to offset what they paid for you.

Here’s the catch!

If at any time you say you want to leave the cult they make you pay everything back that they paid for you and the niceness turns to nastiness.

If you get out alive you will be one of the lucky ones.

In return for their ‘hospitality’ to you, your soul, and your family, you must agree to the following activities.

1. Recruit new members just like a pyramid scheme
2. You must come to church so many Sundays in a row to fulfill the obligation
3. You must tithe so much money a week to offset the initial ‘hospitality’. The more you give the more you love Jesus
4. You must identify and call out ‘non-believers’ or ‘fakers’ in the church even if its their first time visiting. If they are not a good fit in the church the pastor must know so he can redirect them to another church
5. You are required to go on retreats with the church. This way the pastor can isolate you and concrete his ideas in your head with reinforcements who are the other church members
6. You are conditioned and required to tell the pastor if any of the other church members are going against the grain.

Part 3 Fear

The message is that God will be angry with you for some reason. You don’t know the reason and will never know the reason. All you know is that God will be angry with you.

I had an ex boyfriend like this once. He was a sociopath. He kept telling me I was doing things wrong but wouldn’t tell me what. I was just supposed to figure it out and not do it again.

This is the same concept. This is a battle you can’t possibly win and the Preacher preaches it so that you think you can just by pleasing God and figuring out what you did wrong.

But you don’t know what to please him with.

This is a mind game meant to produce fear in somebody. God does not promote this. The pastor does. After fear is established by the Pastor then the mind control game begins!

Fear of Hell

Hel was a Norse Goddess who was in charge of taking souls to the underworld. Sheol is the Hebrew underworld where your soul goes through a spiritual purification to prepare you to meet God as a pure soul. Neither one includes any punishment.

Sheol is never spoken about in any black church because nobody knows what it is including the pastor. The congregation certainly doesn’t know and has never heard of it.

But if you want to control the masses you combine these two religions, then add in punishment. Then put a picture of a half goat half man with horns. Then draw another picture of him holding a pitchfork. Then show it to people who already don’t know what they did wrong to upset God, and tell them that this is what’s coming for you if you don’t get right. Then you have people in your control instantly.

The above is the basis for spiritual abuse.

Hell is mentioned 15 times in the Bible. All in the new testament. The concept of hell is not found anywhere in the old testament.

Hmmmmm. Didn’t King James revise the Bible in the 1600’s? Wasn’t the concept of hell distributed in the 1500’s? And now it’s in the King James version with the 1600’s philosophy of hell?

Hell is only mentioned in these 15 verses in the Bible.

Matthew 5:22
But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to a brother or sister, ‘Raca,’ is answerable to the court. And anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.

Matthew 5:29
If your right eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.

Matthew 5:30
And if your right hand causes you to stumble, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell.

Matthew 10:28
Do not be afraid of those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul. Rather, be afraid of the One who can destroy both soul and body in hell.

Matthew 18:9
And if your eye causes you to stumble, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into the fire of hell.

Matthew 23:15
“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You travel over land and sea to win a single convert, and when you have succeeded, you make them twice as much a child of hell as you are.

Matthew 23:33
“You snakes! You brood of vipers! How will you escape being condemned to hell?

Mark 9:43
If your hand causes you to stumble, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life maimed than with two hands to go into hell, where the fire never goes out.

Mark 9:45
And if your foot causes you to stumble, cut it off. It is better for you to enter life crippled than to have two feet and be thrown into hell.

Mark 9:47
And if your eye causes you to stumble, pluck it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into hell,

Luke 12:5
But I will show you whom you should fear: Fear him who, after your body has been killed, has authority to throw you into hell. Yes, I tell you, fear him.

Acts 6:1
In those days when the number of disciples was increasing, the Hellenistic Jews (A Jewish person that combined Judaism with Greek Culture) among them complained against the Hebraic Jews because their widows were being overlooked in the daily distribution of food.

Acts 9:29
He talked and debated with the Hellenistic Jews Jews (A Jewish person that combined Judaism with Greek Culture) , but they tried to kill him.

James 3:6
The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.

2 Peter 2:4
For if God did not spare angels when they sinned, but sent them to hell, putting them in chains of darkness to be held for judgment;

Under this philosophy everybody who did anything evil before the new testament was written didn’t have a hell to go to? Where did the go? With the start of the new testament now people can go to hell without a problem. Like Motel 6- there’s enough space!

Signs of spiritual abuse through fear:

1. Spiritual abuse is telling your members that you can only think what God thinks and only answer in Bible verses

Example:

Person A. Hey can you pass me the salt?

Person B. The children of Isreal had no salt! They only had the wilderness! If they had no luxuries why are you entitled to them!

Person A. Just hand me the salt and stop trippin!!

2. Shaming and Blaming: shaming someone over body parts or things that happen to humans just because you are human and using the Bible to justify the judgmental critism is another form of spiritual abuse.

Example:

Person A. I have a headache

Person B. That’s because you don’t love Jesus! You didn’t pray enough! You let Satan in that’s your punishment! If you do what the Lord say you won’t have issues like that!

3. Spiritual Manipulation is Stating that the Lord or God spoke to you:

Person A. The Lord just spoke to me and said that you were not blessed because of your lack of faith.

Person B. Shut up fool!

Person A. That’s why you weren’t blessed because of your attitude

Person B. (Gets up and leaves)

4. Calling somebody a fool- Matthew 5:22But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment. Again, anyone who says to a brother or sister, ‘Raca,’ is answerable to the court. And anyone who says, ‘You fool!’ will be in danger of the fire of hell.

This verse is taken waaay too seriously in the Bible Belt. If you are heard calling someone a “fool” in the southern united states black people will literally run away from you for fear of being struck by lightning.

5. Judgmental Christians

Message to those who memorize Bible verses or copy and paste Bible verses on facebook thinking it makes them more of a Christian.

Anybody can copy and paste Bible verses. All you need is Biblegateway.com and if you know how to copy and paste then you can do it.

Atheist, Buddist, Muslims, Confusionist, and anybody from any background can copy and paste a Bible verse. This does not make you more of a Christian. It just makes you computer literate.

I can’t answer a question without quoting a Bible verse

Just because you memorized the Bible does not make you a Christian. Anybody can memorize Bible verses and quote them back.

This is the most blatant form of hiding behind a Bible instead of facing reality and giving real facts. People who hide behind the bible like this cannot give a personal solid opinion and sit on the front pew of the church waiting to press their ideas and values on to you and you’re just supposed to take it because they are closer to God. Why are they closer to God?

Because they took time to memorize a Bible.

6. The most common spiritual abuse is promoting the fear of falling out of favor with the pastor as a means to instill more fear into church members. This circle of stupidity works because too many black people worship the pastor instead of who their supposed to be worshipping with is Jesus Christ.

This brainwashing technique is one of many that Jim Jones and David Kuresh used to gain followers and then lead them to their deaths.

Fear of Death

“God woke me up this morning! Somebody didn’t get up!”

This is the most used manipulative phrase in the black Church.

It is meant to empower yourself and reassure yourself that you are loved and worthy in God’s eyes to be blessed with another day to please him.

This fear based, misconstrued, convoluted, and flat out stupid if you dissect the whole sentence, meaning and concept.

1. God woke me up this morning:
Atheist, Buddhist, Muslims, Taoists, Krishna Worshipers, and 6 billion other people woke up too. So did livestock, fish, and household pets. This statement is selfish as if God only woke you up and nobody else and you were the only one on God’s mind and nobody except for you was worthy of waking up.

It holds a second stupid meaning:
If the whole point of church is to prepare to go to heaven and be with God then if he didn’t wake you up you should be happy. You’re with him. Right? If that is the final goal and you’ve reached it then what is all the fear about.

Under this statement the dead people win. You woke up so you lose. You’re not with God! The dead people are!

2. Somebody didn’t get up!
Well I had relatives die back in the 1970’s and 1980’s. They didn’t get up. I had relatives die in 2001, 2008, 2013 and 2017. They didn’t get up either. I guess God just hates them.

They’ve been punished justly under this statement.

This is also selfish. This implies that you and only you were worthy of getting up while others just lost out.

I guess that little girl who was battling cancer in the hospital who died this morning just wasn’t worthy. But YOU were!!

I guess that couple who died in the car crash last night just wasn’t worthy. But YOU were!!!

I guess the baby that was still born to that family just wasn’t worth it. But YOU were!!!

I guess that sweet little old lady on oxygen who went into cardiac arrest this morning just wasn’t worth it. But YOU were!!!

I guess you should feel good that others misfortune of death wasn’t bestowed on you. Kudos!!! You’re worthy. Too bad for those who were battling some sort of illness or lost their lives in a situation that was not in their control.

You won and they didn’t.

This kind of fear based statement and the fear of death is what drives the tithes for the old people in the church. It’s subliminally mentioned that if you tithe enough you won’t die. And if you wake up then you did right yesterday and you have another chance today. If you do right today then God will reward you with a tomorrow.

This makes sense to who!!!!

Logic Manipulation

Logically Speaking:

If anybody in a black church asks logical questions he or she is quickly put in check if not punished and in some cases asked to leave the church completely.

Why?

Because he or she is trying to contaminate the congregation against God’s word.

“You are not to question the Bible you are to take it as it is! Questioning the Bible means you are questioning God! If you question God you go to hell!”

Even if the question makes sense you’re not supposed to ask you are supposed to dismiss the logical question out of the fear that you will go to hell for being logical.

This makes sense to who???!!!

It is ridiculous how some people act in the church over a question. Why is it so hard just to answer it!

Question:
If Cain, Abel and Eve were the only ones left on earth after Abel was killed then where did Cain find his wife and how did Nod become a whole city? Cain had a father in law. Who was he? If he married his sister as suggested then where did she get a whole city full of people?

Question:
If the commandment says thalt shall not commit adultery and proverbs says thalt shall not take unto you a harlot then why did the Lord command Hosea to take a harlot as a wife? The Lord has just commanded Hosea to send himself to hell.

Question:

Soddom and Gamorrah was either hit by a meteor shower or a volcano eruption. Either way Lot escaped with his daughters to a cave and things went sideways. Archeologist have proven that the visible city of Zoar was 100 feet away unaffected by the events. There were people, food, housing, and warmth in the city and they did take in refugees from Soddom and Gamorrah.

Why did Lot and his daughters not go there? Did they have an alternative intentions?

Question:
Why does Matthew 1:23 call Jesus Immanuel?“The virgin will conceive and give birth to a son, and they will call him Immanuel” (which means “God with us”). And the rest of the verses call him Jesus? Why does he have two names?

Question
Leviticus 21:20. Why does God hate the handicapped?

16 Then the Lord said to Moses, 17 “Say to Aaron, ‘None of your children or their children who has something wrong with his body should go near to give the bread as a gift to his God. 18 For no one whose body is not perfect should come near, no blind man, or man who cannot walk, or one with a marked face, or a bad arm or leg, 19 or a man who has a broken foot or hand, 20 or a man with a crooked upper back from birth, or a very little man, or one who has a bad eye or skin trouble or sores, or one whose sex parts have been crushed. 21 No man among the children of Aaron the religious leader, who has something wrong with his body, should come near to give the Lord’s gifts by fire. He should not come near to give the bread of his God, because he has something wrong with him. 22 He may eat the bread of his God, both of the most holy and of the holy. 23 But he should not come near the curtain or the altar, because he has something wrong with him, and so he may not sin against My holy places. For I am the Lord Who makes them holy.’”

Question: If he is the Lord who makes them holy then why not heal them instead of telling them they can’t come near him?

I just asked a bunch of logical questions and I’ve not been struck by lightning.

Bible Verse Manipulation

Twisting Bible verses happens in all churches. However, the black church takes it to a limit that God couldn’t even imagine!

Lets start first with normal manipulative phrases not in the Bible

1. Either you believe or you don’t!
This phrase is meant to put you in some kind of control because you are out of control with logical statements and questions and you’re not showing enough fear and religious oppression. You keep showing independence and making sense. You keep questioning their beliefs and going against everything they’ve been taught therefore they have to defend their belief by attacking you because they’ve run out of options.

2. You just don’t want to do what the Lord says!
This is another phrase meant to put you in check. You have challenged their ideas with actual Bible scriptures which they have twisted or Bible verses that don’t exist, yet, they believe it’s in the Bible.

None of these phrases are in the Bible no matter how hard you try to twist them
Cleanliness is next to Godliness is not in the Bible

God don’t like ugly is not in the Bible

Blessed and Highly favored is not in the Bible

Worrying is a sin is not in the Bible stated in that word sequence. That statement has been taken out of context by Bible Twisters

3. I’ve been called by the Lord/I’m a servant of the Lord

No you are not. The Lord didn’t appoint any servants and least of all you. This is a manipulative phrase used to try and control others by using Jesus name or gaining some sort of a false status. Anyone saying this is mentally skewed, off the mark, twisted and anyone who gets hooked in their trap will be very very sorry.

Twisting Bible Verses is done at every service

Luke 4 Man cannot live by bread alone
3 The devil said to Him, “If You are the Son of God, tell this stone to be made into bread.” 4 Jesus said to him, “It is written, ‘Man is not to live by bread alone.’”

The following interpretations have been made from the pulpit

1. Man has to have more than one woman because the bread represent a woman
2. Man has to have wine or other addictions because bread is dry
3. This does not apply to women only men and men must have more material things than women

Proverbs 13:24He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

This does not mean to beat your child. This means to steer the child in the right direction and give him/her moral values to live by. This has been twisted around to inflict violence on the innocents. The black church takes this verse to levels.

There is a line between a church goer, a bible study student, and a fanatic who lives in an alternate reality created by themselves.

These black churches promote a fantasy world that is hard to and does not exist. Promoting fear, twisting Bible verses, and traditional gimmicks to increase tithes is wrong.

The black church has figured out how to retain people by manipulating fears and emotions with promises that can never be backed up or proven.

A lot of black people are leaving the church because of these false doctrines that are being taught. The ones who have stayed in the church cannot be reasoned with or spoken to in any normal manner to get them to understand that they are not being saved. They are being used!

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August 17, 2017 · 6:00 am

Behind The Curtain part 4 – Religious Manipulation in the Black Church

Addressing mental illness in the black church

1. Tithe Manipulation
2. Emotional and Fear Manipulation
3. Logic Manipulation
4. Bible Verse Manipulation

Tithe Manipulation

The human brain.

The human brain processes whatever information it’s given. If it’s not given complete information then it will process incomplete information. Most Christians do not read the Bible. As a result they are given partial information from the pulpit. This partial information is processed incorrectly and false beliefs are born and then reinforced.

Tithes

Churches teach and practice tithing but the black church takes it to limits. This is what is being preached from the pulpit.

1. God will not bless you unless you tithe money.
2. The more money you tithe the more God will bless you.
3. You will get a nice return on your investment if you tithe money.
4. If you don’t tithe then you are robbing God of money that is due him. (misuse of Malachi)
5. Not tithing is turning your back on God. If you turn your back on him he will turn his back on you.
6. Not tithing is showing disrespect or un-appreciativeness of what God has done for you.

Tricks and bullying tactics to make people tithe in church. None of this is made up.

1. The pastor or whoever has the microphone waves $50 and $100 bills in the air stating that he/she will not miss out of their blessings because they didn’t tithe. Then they go right to the back room and take the tithe back so they can go to Red Lobster after church.

2. They lock the doors to the church and demand money from members in the pews.

3. They take the microphone and demand that 10 people give $25 right now. Then the auction goes up to $30 and so on.

4. They demand W-2’s or check stubs to be presented to the church finance committee to make sure that you are giving God his due of 10% of your paycheck. If you fall short you are sent a bill from the church.

5. If you don’t have a job then you are expected to borrow the money from a relative to keep up with the tithing and receive blessings. One of the blessings is that you will get a job if you tithe.

6. They have ATM’s at the entrance of the church in case you forgot your money.

7. They have a little child lead the prayer for tithes and have the child do a dance or cry or something so people will give more.

8. They present a ‘Love Offering’. This is not even a tithe. This is just extra money given to the pastor because you love him so much.

9. They post in the back of the church bulletin the top 50 tithers. If your name is not on it then you are not tithing enough.

10. They have paypal just in case you go on vacation and cannot make it to church.

11. They have a title lending office inside the church so you can pawn your car titles in lieu of tithes. When you can’t get your title back they sell the car and viola! You have paid your tithes for that week.

12. If you don’t plan on tithing then don’t come to church at all.

The pastor says “The Bible says to tithe and your blessings will overflow” He forgets to say that in accordance with the Bible you must tithe in meats, oils, grains and fruit and you must take it to a Levite Priest so he can eat and distribute to the less fortunate who have no land to farm.

What the Bible says about Tithes

There was a money system in place all through the Bible starting in Genesis through Revelation. Isaac used shekels to buy land. Hosea used shekels and silver to buy back his adulterous wife. Harlots were purchased left and right with silver and gold coins and shekels. Jesus himself went WWE in the temple where money changers were acting up. It was the talk of the town!

Matthew 21:12 – Jesus entered the temple courts and drove out all who were buying and selling there. He overturned the tables of the money changers and the benches of those selling doves.

I really think the selling of the doves is what got it

John 2:15 – 15 So he made a whip out of cords, and drove all from the temple courts, both sheep and cattle; he scattered the coins of the money changers and overturned their tables.

So while the doves and other things were being sold Jesus had enough time to make a whip out of cords with the sole intent of tearing up the temple. Taking time to make a whip and is known in court as a Pre-Meditated crime.

And apparently they were so focused on selling doves that nobody saw Jesus in the corner making a whip out of cords! Whose cords? We don’t know. What we do know is that Jesus did not bring the cords with him otherwise they’d already be made.

I’m not going to ask how he could make wine out of water but had to physically take some cords and make a whip.

 

Mark 11:15 – On reaching Jerusalem, Jesus entered the temple courts and began driving out those who were buying and selling there. He overturned the tables of the money changers and the benches of those selling doves

Now I can understand the money changers being thrown out but them sheep and cattle were innocent. They weren’t selling anything. They were innocent bystanders. Jesus apparently went on a rampage in the temple like nobody’s business if live stock was affected.

And

Matthew 27:3 – When Judas, who had betrayed him, saw that Jesus was condemned, he was seized with remorse and returned the thirty pieces of silver to the chief priests and the elders.

How could Judas hand over pieces of silver or bags of coins if coins did not exist and no money system was in place?

**There was always a money system in place and it was never used for tithes**

The right way to tithe

Deuteronomy 14:28
At the end of every three years, bring all the tithes of that year’s produce and store it in your towns,

Numbers 18:26
“Speak to the Levites and say to them: ‘When you receive from the Israelites the tithe I give you as your inheritance, you must present a tenth of that tithe as the Lord’s offering.

Not 10%

The right way to tithe
1. You are supposed to be tithing every 3 years according to the Bible
2. The tithes are supposed to go to a Levite Priest which we don’t have anymore
3. It does not say 10% . It says a 10th.

10% and a 10th are two totally different things

a. A 10th means if you have 10 cows you give your 10th cow. If you have 9 cows you do not tithe until you have 10.

If you have 20 cows you give 2 cows. If you have 19 cows you give 1 cow because you don’t have 20. To tithe biblically you simply count to 10 and give the 10th one.

b. 10% is something totally different. I you have 9 cows and tithe 10% of 9 cows the theoretically you must tithe .09% of a cow.

If you have 4 cows and tithe 10% of the 4 cows then theoretically you tithe .04% of a cow.

That makes no sense.

4. They had a coin system of shekels, gold and silver, however, money was not accepted as tithes for God. Meat and grains for the Levite priests were the only requirement because tithes were meant to be eaten. You cannot eat coins and shekels.

1. The Levites had to eat and

2. The Levites distributed the food and grain tithes to those who had no land to grow food.

3. Tithes were to be eaten. Digested. Cooked and prepared. Burned. You can’t do all of that with money. Tithes were burnt offerings such as animals or grains for food.

Tithes were to help the community. It is not supposed to go to the priest or the pastor for Crystal ceilings, ivory bathtubs, solid gold counter tops and other nonsense.

Biblical times were hard for folks and people truly needed help feeding themselves.
None of these biblical verses mention money as a means of Tithing to the Levite Priests. Tithes are to be eaten. You cannot or should not eat money.

The following Bible verses prove that money should never be used for tithes in any church.

Deuteronomy 26:12
When you have finished setting aside a tenth of all your produce in the third year, the year of the tithe, you shall give it to the Levite, the foreigner, the fatherless and the widow, so that they may eat in your towns and be satisfied.

1 Samuel 8:15
He will take a tenth of your grain and of your vintage and give it to his officials and attendants.

Matthew 23:23
“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of your spices—mint, dill and cumin. But you have neglected the more important matters of the law—justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced the latter, without neglecting the former.

Luke 11:42
“Woe to you Pharisees, because you give God a tenth of your mint, rue and all other kinds of garden herbs, but you neglect justice and the love of God. You should have practiced the latter without leaving the former undone.

Leviticus 27:30
A tithe of everything from the land, whether grain from the soil or fruit from the trees, belongs to the Lord; it is holy to the Lord.

2 Chronicles 31:5
As soon as the order went out, the Israelites generously gave the firstfruits of their grain, new wine, olive oil and honey and all that the fields produced. They brought a great amount, a tithe of everything.

Nehemiah 13:12
All Judah brought the tithes of grain, new wine and olive oil into the storerooms.

All of these verses mention tithing in grain, meats, oils, wine, and fruits. No money.

Malachi-

The heated tithing debate.

He never tithed in money.

He tithed in food for the Levite priests.

Malachi 3:8-10

“Will a mere mortal rob God? Yet you rob me. “But you ask, ‘How are we robbing you?’ “In tithes and offerings. You are under a curse—your whole nation—because you are robbing me. Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. Test me in this,” says the Lord Almighty, “and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that there will not be room enough to store it.

This was referring to food. Not money.

Performances in the Pulpit

The need for performance and showboat praising in the black church comes straight from Africa. If the Preacher is not jumping around, yelling in the microphone, gasping for air, falling out on the stage, and basically putting on a vaudeville show then as far as they are concerned they didn’t have good church.

Feeling guilty about tithing is a part of church. If you feel worse when you left than when you entered then the mission has been accomplished.

Africans Vs Black Americans in Worship

What is the difference?

Not much.

The apple didn’t fall to far from the tree on this one when it comes to singing, praising, and truly going overboard with proving to everybody else in the village how much you love your deity! This running around the church, screaming, shouting, dancing, playing music at ear splitting levels and hollering on key comes straight from Africa and no where else.

This ‘hard worshipping’ came with the Africans through the boat on the slave trade. As soon as they had the chance to praise their God and beg for release from bondage they praised the same way they did in Africa. That style of praise continued through and after slavery and is still going on in 2017. Only its worse.

Like the old colored folks used to say to those who took it to levels like this:

“It don’t even take all that! What are they trying to prove!”

White Churches

White Churches do not stress tithing half as much as Black Churches do. Nor to White Churches have the cartwheels, summer saults, double handsprings, and other indoor Olympic acts in the pulpit to get people to hoop holler and respond.

The wildest I’ve ever seen a white church get is handing tambourines out at a revival and do a little dance in the aisle.

White Churches do not need to put on a “look at me” act to get a reaction of a holy ghost or holy dance.

Holy rolling and holy dancing comes straight from Africa. The apple doesn’t fall too far from the tree with black Americans over here.

Corinthians

6 But this I say: He who soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly, and he who soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully.
7 As every man purposeth in his heart, so let him give, not grudgingly or out of compulsion; for God loveth the cheerful giver.

This verse is the most quoted verse during money tithes and offerings. This verse is taken out of context in the church. If you continue reading to verse 9 it says:

9 As it is written: “He hath dispersed abroad, he hath given to the poor; his righteousness remaineth for ever.”

The cheerful giver verse is written for giving to the poor. Not giving tot he pastor who keeps it all.

“Well the church has to keep the lights on and it takes money to run a church! If we’re not supposed to give money what are we supposed to do!?”

If the church is truly running as a non profit and they need money to pay the bills why can’t they do this:

Post all bills up in the lobby for the month and members go to the power station, or the water company or whatever the bill says and put the money directly on the bill instead of putting it in the floating basket. This way the bills will be paid and if there’s a credit on the account the church won’t ever have to worry about the lights going out.

If each member donates $1 or $2 to each bill it will be paid in no time.

“Well the pastor has to get paid! He’s working!”

Working on the Sabbath? Working on Sunday? Oh! For SHAME!

There is a strong belief among Black Christians that God wants us all to follow Moses law and not work on the Sabbath or Sunday.

But its okay for the Pastor to do it. Incidentally Jesus worked on the Sabbath too. If I read this correctly he was questioned harshly for doing just that. He talked his way out of it.

Luke 13:14
But the ruler of the synagogue answered with indignation, because Jesus had healed on the Sabbath day, and said unto the people, “There are six days in which men ought to work; in them therefore come and be healed, and not on the Sabbath day.”

Sabbath

Sabbath is a Hebrew word for Saturday. So anyone working on Saturday is actually breaking the Sabbath.

Most Christians don’t read the Bible therefore they don’t know this.

What have we learned about Tithing?

  1. Do it every 3 years and not every Sunday
  2. It must be edible
  3. There must be a Levite priest present to hand the tithes to
  4. The editable tithes are to be given to the poor and homeless
  5. If your church insists on making you tithe do it the right way and bring a cow or some grains to the altar on Sunday at church. Then politely ask your pastor what to do with the livestock.

Do yall see a problem here?

 

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August 14, 2017 · 6:00 am

Behind The Curtain Part 3 – The Black Church Promoting Unhealthy Marriages

Unaddressed Mental Illness In The Black Community

The black church encourages couples staying together no matter what! Mental illness is not even a thought or considered because all you have to do it pray it away. Black churches do not have the proper counseling in place to deal with couples who may be facing this type of brain disease.

Marriage Counseling

The Bride or Wife – Has a brain chemical imbalance which contributes to an Anti-Social Personality Disorder. She is also manic depressant/bi-polar. She shows a display of histrionics along with disregard for right and wrong, pathological lying, crossing boundaries, and being abusive physically and verbally. Drama Queen.

The Groom or husband– Suffers from mental illness as a Narcissistic Manipulative Sociopath. He sees his new bride as nothing more than a tool to be used for his own pleasure. He is controlling. Has no remorse for anything he does. Lies at the drop of a hat. Vindictive and jealous. Always accusing her of having a ‘HIM’ on the side. Cheats on her because he’s accused her of doing the same. Presses buttons and starts fights for no reason. Puts on a façade for friends and family so it looks like she’s lying when she tells them what he’s doing. Drama King.

The Pastor: Has no formal education on mental illness and no degree in psychology ,encourages a marriage between the manic depressant bipolar woman and a sociopath manipulative narcissist man. All while quoting this Bible verse

Matthew 19:5-7:

5 and said, ‘For this cause shall a man leave father and mother and shall cleave to his wife, and the two shall be one flesh’?
6 Therefore they are no more two, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

The Bible does not address mental illness in marriages. Unless Jesus is present as in the New Testament physically curing the mentally ill they won’t get the help they need unless they seek out a professional.

Unchecked Mental Illness In The Black Church

It never crosses anybody’s mind that the bride and groom, or husband and wife,  have an unchecked mental illness that does not allow them to live an any peace. When they have a problem the pastor simply tells them to “pray those spirits away” or “rebuke Satan”.

Black churches promote and encourage bad marriages while hiding behind the Bible. When the people file for divorce they are discouraged from seeking real help all in the name of Jesus.

This section of Behind the curtain I am exposing the following:

A. Messed up marriages in the black church.
B. Exposing Pastors who encourage them

 

The Marriage

The Groom – A sociopathic narcissists has no regard for others, social norms, boundaries, and cannot help himself with pathological lying. He does not worry about the past or the future. He only does what he needs to do for right now this very second to survive. Sociopaths are good looking smooth talkers who will do or say anything to get  a yes from an individual or a crowd. Once he’s won the prize he’s not interested in keeping it. He moves on. This kind of behavior has no cure. The brain structure is that of the primitive brain. He’s an alcoholic.

The Bride – Has a chemical imbalance in the brain that causes her to suffer from Bi-polar and depression. These are two different things. She has mood swings, substance abuse, sadness, she’s angry all the time, and is physically and verbally abusive.

Both have gone through life with unchecked mental illnesses and believe that the life they live is normal.

The Pastor tells them that ‘Love can conquer all boundaries’ and ‘all you need is love in a marriage’ and trust in Jesus to work out any problems you face’ and ‘work on your marriage to make it last’.

The pastor’s favorite line is, “Don’t bail because if it fails” and “A marriage must be worked on and developed. But most of all love.”

**Two mentally ill people in a marriage will never work. One mentally ill person in a marriage barely works. There is not ‘working it out’ in any marriage with an unchecked mental illness partner**

In extreme cases where the other person is just too crazy somebody has to leave. A marriage is never worth putting your life or your child’s life in jeopardy.

The Wedding Day

The Groom barely show up because he wants the crowd to wonder if he’s going to show up. He wants to create drama. His aim is to see how much she really cares. If she’s crying when he gets there an hour late then that means she really cares.

The Bride continues to call the Groom in his absence on the alter. She threatens to pull a guy from the crowd and marry him if the Groom is not there in 15 more minutes. She’s totally embarrassed and does not want to face the crowd having been stood up at the alter.

The Groom laughs at the voice message because he enjoys playing mind games. Seeing others in pain is their goal. It brings them satisfaction. Sociopaths are excellent at playing mind games and the more upset you get the happier they are because they are winning.

The Groom finally shows up and she’s very happy to see him. This is step one in his quest for total control over her.

While the game playing is going on the Pastor has the choir sing songs and preaches a small sermon to keep the church guests engaged.

The Problem – The Honeymoon

The manic depressant bipolar bride and sociopathic manipulative narcissistic groom go on a honey moon. Both mental illnesses, anti-social personality disorders and displays of histrionics along with the drama king and queen occur.

The Groom is bored already with the new bride. He goes for drinks in the hotel bar with a petite little red head. His alternative reason is just to see if the new wife gets mad. Its a test of her love. The new wife catches him in the hotel bar and the scene triggers a mood swing. She starts swinging and fighting the red head. The groom enjoys the fight. The emotion she’s showing by punching the red head just proves how much she loves him. After he bails her out of jail for assault he professes his love for her.

The red head does not matter. She was a prop.

This is one of many mind games he will play on her just watch her take the bait.

Two Months Later

They are in the pastors office yelling about divorce. She’s tired of fighting all the girls and going to jail. He doesn’t understand why she doesn’t understand that she’s only showing love each time she gets an assault charge.

To normal people this is crazy. To a sociopath this is just plain fun and nothing else.

His behavior is triggering her mood swings and throwing her substance abuse into overdrive.

To her it is becoming a problem beyond her control. To him its just another life in the day and she needs to get with it!

The Pastor says– If they love each other and trust in God that the love and trust will overpower any problems they have. Encourages them to stay together and ‘work it out’.

The Groom is told to “Pray away his unfaithfulness” and to “Rebuke the wandering eye. It’s nothing but Satan trying to break them apart”

The Bride is told to “Pray away the substance abuse” and “Pray away the mood swings”

She wants to seek therapy. He doesn’t.

The pastor discourages them from going to therapy or seeing any professional. God is all they need.

If they trust in Jesus they won’t go to a professional.
If they go to a professional then they are not trusting Jesus.
If they’re not trusting Jesus then they are not true Christians.
If they are true Christians then they’ll know Jesus will fix it and not go to therapy.

This kind of circular logic/catch 22 is the problem. This mind game brain loop is helping no one.

Why Black Men Refuse To Go To Therapy

It is a sign of weakness

They will be seen as crazy

Therapy is for white people

Pride issues. What will their friends say if they find out

Seen as a punk

He does not want to admit there is a problem

The Divorce – 4 months later

They both are bored with each other. It’s the same old thing. They lie to each other everyday. They go through their mental instability episodes. They cheat on each other for fun and post it on Facebook. They have violent fights. And they have no shame in anything.

This kind of a marriage does not grow and won’t go anywhere. A marriage take TWO people working on it. One cannot work alone on a marriage that has another person who is unwilling to contribute to it.

They go to the pastor with a want for divorce

The Pastor warns them against it. They cannot get a divorce because :
It will upset Jesus
They need to work it out
They just need to love each other
They will be turning their backs on God
They will dishonor the vows they took
They have to stay together
They need to talk it out
They are falling into the “If it fails then bail” marriage trap

The Pastor is promoting two mentally ill people to stay in an unhealthy marriage and discouraging them to get any help. Prayer is always fine but sometimes you need extra help. These two are in a mentally, physically, and verbally abusive relationship. This can end very badly if someone does not get help soon.

The Final Outcome – 6 months later

The sociopathic narcissist husband committed a crime and blamed it on the bipolar manic depressant wife. He’ll do anything not to take the blame or responsibility for himself. While in jail she sees forced to see a therapist and finds out that she has a mental disorder. She’s given medication to balance the chemicals in her brain and now she understands what she didn’t before. She gets out of jail and tries to talk to the narcissistic sociopath husband about what she learned. He doesn’t want any part of it.

Confronting a sociopath

When a sociopath is confronted, exposed or outed he/she can become belligerent, violent, threatening your life or others, controlling in a way that has you locked in a basement or the back of a trunk, will pull a weapon if he has one, and when all else fails he/she will start crying while stating that they are the victim and then accuse you of everything you just exposed on them. And go as far as to say “Yes I did it! But YOU made me do it”.

They will never take responsibility for themselves or admit to any wrong doing without taking 10 people down with them.

The Pastor says the following after learning she has filed for divorce:

You’re just not giving it a chance
Why can’t you two work on your marriage?
Do you love and trust Jesus?

The bride yells at the pastor

“This ain’t got nothing to do with no Jesus related! He has a mental problem. I have a mental problem. I’m now on medication to stabilize me and he needs help too! Until we both get help this marriage isn’t going to work!”

The pastor and husband yell at the wife that she has allowed Satan to speak through her mouth. She has allowed spirits to enter her soul and allowed medicine to corrupt her. All they have to do is love each other and the marriage will work.

The bride gets up, leaves, turns in the paperwork for divorce and never attends that church again. She goes on her way with an understanding of what has happened and makes a better choice next time.

The sociopath narcissist finds another girl who is manic depressant and bipolar and repeats the same cycle he just went through. His theory is “If there is not drama in a relationship then it’s not a relationship” and he cheats on her “just to see how much she really cares” if she gets upset because he cheats on her then “it’s because she really loves him”. The more he cheats on her and the more upset she gets then that means she “really really loves him”.

Unchecked mental illness in a relationship will not work. It does not matter how much you love, pray, or scream the name of Jesus. Until the mental illness is put in some kind of check it’s not going to work.

Mental illness is real in the black community

and this little situation above plays out every single day of the week. Dealing with a mentally ill person is tiring, frustrating, aggravating and angering. If you don’t know the signs of mental illness then you cannot determine what is wrong with this person. That’s why people get shot.

There is no working out any marriage where one or both partners are mentally ill. Churches need to understand this and stop trying to interject religion and Jesus into a marriage that will never work anyway.

Isaiah 54:17 – No weapon that is formed against thee shall prosper;

Mental illness is not a weapon! Mental illness is mental illness and is needs to be treated as a disease much like diabetes, leukemia or cancer. Mental illness can kill.

Hiding Behind The Bible

Here’s what the Bible has to say about marriages:
1. Multiple wives
2. Multiple wives and concubines

And that’s pretty much the message throughout the Bible

Actual marriages in the Bible where someone had a problem

Every marriage in the Bible was dysfunctional to say the least! Here we go.

Dysfunctional Marriages in the Bible

1. Adam and Lilith.

It is hotly debated whether or not Lilith was Adam’s first wife or not. Anyway, The first Genesis 1:26 speaks of a maiden and man. They weren’t named. It is thought that this was Adam and Lilith. Well she got mad and left which is why Genesis 2 was written again. This time there are names of Adam and Eve.

2. Genesisn2:4. Adam and Eve.

First ones on earth (supposedly. There could have been a Pre-Adamic People), they were totally clueless, they messed everything up for everybody else. Then they were poor parents who raised one smart mouth brat Abel and a psychopath Cain. You know the rest. All 4 suffered from some kind of mental illness but being the only ones on earth they had no one to turn to. God is supposed to know all, yet, he had to ask Cain what happened to Abel even though he knew Cain would lie in the first place. Why did God ask if he already knew the answer?

3. Genesis 29- Rachel and Leah.

Two baby mommas who had a contest for who could produce the biggest litter. We all know who won. Isaac and Rebecca, Jacob and Esau, Rachel and Leah, and the hand maids all needed professional mental help and didn’t receive it. All that dysfunction led to Joseph, Rachel’s kid, talking smack and his brothers throwing him in a hole.

4. Ruth 1- Ruth. A poor ugly codependent who got into it with the girls during gleaning. She just didn’t get it. Ruth was a people pleasing biblical doormat who lived very passive in and sad.

5. Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John – Joseph and Mary.

The Holy Spirit knew full well she was Joseph’s girl and made her a baby momma anyway. Joseph disappeared from the scriptures. We don’t know where he went but I assumed he went for bad, as any slighted man would, in the Holy Spirits face and got man handled.

Also the Holy Spirit violated his own rule of “Thalt Shalt Not Covet….”

6. Judges 16-Sampson and Delilah.

She set this biblical brother up for a bad haircut. And the whole blinding this was a bad side effect. Poor guy died never knowing that she was a manipulative delusional sociopath.

There were no mental health specialists to help him recognize the signs. Otherwise, he could have just left.

The worst and most stupid marriage in the Bible. The Book Of Hosea!

Hosea and Gomar

I had issues with this.

The Lord instructed Hosea to go get a skank. He found Gomer in her natural element. Hosea tried to do what the Lord said and just couldn’t hang with her rude awful behavior.

She was twerking in the stables. She was cussing and smoking with lewd behavior. She was a donkey rustler. She was a village ‘lot lizard’. And what probably set it off was that horrid scene at the market where she defiled the bread.

(for those of you taking that seriously please do not. I made that up. Creative Writing)

He came to his senses and put her out. Too much drama.

The Lord encouraged Hosea to go get her back and deal with all the skankiness. Following the Lord’s orders he found her somewhere twerking in the temple and bought her for “fifteen shekels of silver, and one and one-half homers of barley”. He laid down the law and now she loves the Lord and stopped all behavior.

Exodus 20:14 clearly states thou shalt not commit adultery. It is believed that God wrote it. So what kind of a Lord would fully encourage a good upstanding man to seek and search for a ‘wife of harlotry’ AKA a skank? The first sentence defies one of the 10 commandments he supposedly wrote!

Next Hosea does the right thing and stop associating with somebody like that only to have the Lord make him pay shekels for her. Then miraculously she ceases and desists all bad behavior.

Gomer clearly suffered from some kind of delusion, manic depressant, and maybe bipolar. Clearly sociopathic with no regard for societal rules and no boundaries.  Without proper treatment and medication she would not have made that kind of a turn around unless he chained her in a basement and cut her off from all contact of other people.

People like Gomer and others who engage in that kind of behavior need an audience for attention. If there is no audience they are sad and feel lonely.

None of these marriages should ever be used as any example of anything. They were all dysfunctional.

Divorce in the Bible

Matthew 5:32
But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery.

Thalt shall not commit adultery is a commandment. Committing adultery means you go to hell.

Divorce in the bible only went one way. The man, who had a zillion wives, could divorce any one of the wives at any time, HOWEVER, she could not divorce him. She did not have that right but he did. FURTHERMORE, if she is sent away if another man married the divorced woman then HE goes to hell. Not her! Him!

The debate is if she is in a dysfunctional marriage, such as you are wife number 82 and you have to deal with 623 concubines, and wife number 82 wants to leave, she can’t! Her only hope is that he tires of her and pushes her out the door. But now she becomes a risk for another guy because he’s going to hell because of her.

This makes sense to who!!!!!!!

 

Leviticus 21:7 – states Thy shall not take a wife who is a harlot or a defiled woman, nor shall they take a woman divorced from her husband; for the priest is holy to his God.

Yet, the Lord told Hosea to do just that in the first line of the Book of Hosea. Hmmmm.

Numbers 30 is totally ridiculous. Don’t even read it.

Deuteronomy 25:11
11 “If two men fight together, and the wife of one draws near to rescue her husband from the hand of the one attacking him, and puts out her hand and seizes him by the genitals, 12 then you shall cut off her hand; your eye shall not pity her.

Actually, this is the kind of wife you want. She will have your back in a fight but no, The Lord says you have to cut off her hand.

Deuteronomy 22:28-28

“If a man finds a young woman who is a virgin, who is not betrothed, and he seizes her and lies with her, and they are found out, 29 then the man who lay with her shall give to the young woman’s father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife because he has humbled her; he shall not be permitted to divorce her all his days.

The point of this is to make the rapist take responsibility. The violated girl is never considered in any of this. She is the victim of the punishment in this whole scenario. What girl wants to marry a guy who forced her? What if it was her father, brother, uncle, cousin, next door neighbor, pastor, priest, or whoever? This is in the bible and it is marked SHARIA LAW.

Oh and in the bible the violated girl still has no right to file for divorce against her husband whom she was forced to marry after being attacked. Only he has that right.

1 Corinthians 7 – go figure on that one

There are several more but this one does not fit either
Matthew 22:24
saying: “Teacher, Moses said that if a man dies, having no children, his brother shall marry his wife and raise up offspring for his brother.

Thalt shalt not commit adultery! However, if you are married and your brother dies you are to take your sister in law and marry her and produce children for your brother while you still have your original wife!

This promotes too many questions:

What if your brother was gay?
What if you killed your brother like Cain killed Abel?
What if you have 6 brothers then who decides on the goods?
What if you hated your brother and glad he’s dead?
What if you don’t like your sister in law?
What if she doesn’t like you?
What if she doesn’t want to get married?
What if she already has another boyfriend?
What if two sisters married two brothers?

This makes sense to who???!!!!!

And churches are actually using these verses to try and sort out relationships between individuals who may or may not be mentally ill. The church doesn’t know if they are mentally ill because nobody is asking.

Rethink this!!

 

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August 11, 2017 · 6:00 am

Behind The Curtain- Parental drug use And Mental Illness in Parents

Unaddressed mental illness in the black community

Section E: Child Abuse in the black community with parents under the influence

Definition of Child Abuse: when the punishment does not fit the crime.
Example. Susie receives a ‘black eye’ because she asked for a ‘cookie’.
Definition of beating: a punishment or assault in which the victim is hit repeatedly:
Definition of hit: bring one’s hand or a tool or weapon into contact with (someone or something) quickly and forcefully: strike, slap, smack, spank, cuff, … more
• cause harm or distress to:
• an instance of striking or being struck: blow, thump, punch, knock, bang
• an instance of striking the target aimed at:
Definition of repeatedly: over and over again; constantly: synonyms: frequently, often, again and again, over and over (again), time and (time) again,
Definition of punishment:1. the infliction or imposition of a penalty as retribution for an offense: “crime demands just punishment” synonyms: penalizing, punishing, disciplining, retribution, retributive justice,
Definition of assault: 1. a violent physical or verbal attack b
2. 2 law a : a threat or attempt to inflict offensive physical contact or bodily harm on a that puts the person in immediate danger of or in apprehension of such harm or contact — compare battery 1bb : rape 2

Instigators of child abuse in the black community

A Church
B Grandparents
C Tradition
D Acceptance
E Parental drug use
F Media

 

Parental drug use And Mental Illness in parents

“Just pray about it and trust Jesus and your addiction will stop”

This statement comes straight from the black church. Addiction is a diseases of the brain and cannot be prayed away. Trusting in Jesus is perfectly fine but that is not the answer to someone with a diseased mind.

Children of drug addicts

There is no way for a child to know that his/her parent is hooked on drugs or alcohol. Children naturally bond and trust their parents with unconditional love until they are able to reason and sort out thoughts. Children of drug addicts watch the parents behavior and mimic what they see the parent do. The child will think that the actions of the parent are correct and normal until they find out otherwise.

If the parent is high on drugs and abuses the child, then the child will naturally think that he’s done something to deserve it. When in fact, the child is innocent.

Exodus 20: Honor your Father and Mother

This is one of the 10 commandments in the Bible and the Torah. This is also the commandment that strips children of any and all rights to live a perfectly normal life.

Does this commandment apply to parents who are herion, crack, PCP, Spice, Xtacy, and needle junkies?

The Bible doesn’t specify. Church leads you to believe that you are supposed to honor your father and mother no matter what! Even if they are not in their right mind. Otherwise you go to hell!

Does this commandment apply to children of Sociopaths and Narcissists?

What about parents who function on the Primitive or Reptilian Brain?

Parents like that are unable to feel love and cannot differentiate right from wrong. People like that have no business raising kids or let alone giving birth to them.

Does this apply to children of alcoholics? Mommy or Daddy or both stayed so drunk that every holiday, outing, family event, school event, or award show was ruined.

When I say ruined I’m talking about Mommy or Daddy vomiting on the crowd over a balcony because he or she had to get drunk before attending the event. Or worse yet, they were so drunk they don’t even remember going to your baptism, wedding, your birth or anything else.

Happy Mother or Father’s Day!

Mothers Day and Fathers Day can be a nightmare for children and adults who had to cut ties with an abusive parent. The black church has promoted failed parenting in the black community with hiding behind the Bible.

The commercials on TV showing loving parents and how you should reward does not apply to most of America. Those commercials present a false illusion.

Stressing honor your father and mother while a child is telling you they’ve been hurt is promoting failed parenting.

It is unfair to that child and wrong. Any church doing this should lose their non-profit status as soon as they are reported and they should be reported!

Honor your abusive father and mother while refusing to attend their funeral

Every black funeral has its own drama. Jumping in graves. Fights. Flipping over a table at the repass. Punching the pastor. Throwing flowers. Punching the corpse. Family members arrested at the grave yard. Family members shot at a funeral. I’ve heard it all.

What about someone attending the funeral who was told not to or someone not attending who should be or someone who was forced to attend who doesn’t want to be there?

The aftermath of child abuse when you are an adult

Tomika is now 40 years old. Her parents have been out of jail for years and she has not spoken to them in over a decade. She and her brother have suffered Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. The abuse was over the top. She’s gone through years of therapy and counseling to deal with the abuse inflicted on her and her brother Will. She feels remorse for running away and abandoning her little brother. Her father has died and she is refusing to go to the funeral because he was not a good man. Plus she knows that her mother and grandparents who instigated the abuse will be there. They have no changed and blame Tomika for their extended stay in county.

The church and the family gives her a hard time. After standing her ground on the issue she and brother  Will decide to go but now without a dramatic show.

The Funeral of An Abusive Parent

This is another taboo subject in the black community. Attending the funeral of an abuser. In the black community you are just supposed to follow suit and go to the funeral because “it’s the right thing to do”.

It is believed that if the person is dead that all conflicts have been resolved at that point and you are only to remember the good times and all is miraculously forgiven.

Even if there were no good times you are supposed to make them up and believe there were some.

Everybody has the right to choose whether or not they attend anybody’s funeral anywhere in this world. A survivor of abuse has the right to decide if he/she wants to attend the abusers funeral. It is their personal choice and nobody else’s. Judgement should not be passed on anyone refusing to attend a funeral for whatever their reason.

Tomika and Will

Tomika and Will are justified in their anger towards their estranged abusive father and towards the mother who assisted in the abuse. And towards the grandparents who instigated it. The church and the school were also wrong but they are past aggravants at this point.

Tomika and Will angrily bust into the funeral home, push the pastor aside and commandeer the microphone. They never look into the casket. Will shoves the pastor in the face as the pastor verbally protests their behavior. The whole church protests the behavior. Will and Tomika make the following speech to the objecting upset crowd.

Tomika
We will say what we need to say about this fool and then we gonna leave! I’m not going to stand here and lie to you and say he was a good man because he wasn’t. Nor will I stand here and tell you he was father of the year because he wasn’t. Nor will I tell you that I’m going to miss him. Because I won’t. If you think I’m being disrespectful right now what about what he did to me and how you allowed it to happen.

Crowd: That’s over with why you still carrying it on. He’s dead have some respect!

Will
It amazes me how you people expect us to stand up here and sing praises of a man who cared only about himself and abused and used everybody in his path. If you expect us to say he’s in heaven or God is welcoming him and basically turn “Satan into a Saint” for your viewing pleasure then you can hang that up. If you think that we came here expecting that attending will help us work through our pain and unresolved issues that’s not going to happen. If you want to think he was best man ever just because we’re in this setting then go ahead. Pretending doesn’t make it true. He’s rotting in hell with the halo that you placed on him!

Crowd: Yall should be over this by now! Yall need to be supporting your mother! Yall wrong for what yall doing here! Yall need to grow up!

Tomika
For those of you who think this is inappropriate and terrible what we’re doing right now? Why did you not think that the abuse he inflicted on us was inappropriate and terrible then? We were defenseless kids. Several of you in this crowd knew what he was doing and who he was doing it to. Our cries went unheard and ignored. The damage was done and cannot be undone and the damage was equally done by Mother and all of you. You had the power to stop him from abusing us. But instead we were blamed and labeled as liars. We just had to take it because we were kids. Get over it? Grow up? (laughs) Those statements are uttered by weak losers who didn’t have the balls to stand up for a child.

Crowd: We didn’t know he was doing that! If we’d a known we’d a helped!

Will
We told you but you called us liars! Grandma and Grandpa you instigated this whole mess and sat back and watched while they beat me senseless at 7 years old. Not only did you watch you laughed each time I cried out in tears. Let me make this clear. When you two die I will not attend your funerals. I got better things to do!

Tomika
Me too! We know as soon as we leave you’re going to make him out to be the greatest most wonderful man on the planet who saved kittens from trees and built campfires for boy scouts! That couldn’t further from the truth. Yet you would rather believe that lie than to face the monster he really was. Will is right he wouldn’t be the monster he was without instigation from you two! The beatings, the addictions, the hiding behind the Bible, you two deserve exactly what you get. As far as him in this coffin right now! Good riddens to bad trash! Keep him!

Crowd: Why don’t yall leave! Yall causing trouble! Why yall dragging up old news! Its over with! Yall need to forigive!

Will
Its not over for us! It will never be over for us! And all of you who kept silent while we were being abused and chose to ignore us when we told you what was happening? You will have your day. May God have mercy on your wretched souls cause I sure don’t!

Tomika

Hey! If you want people to come mourn you at a funeral act right while you’re alive! Then maybe they’ll respect you when your dead! This mess in this coffin right here! Keep it!

Will and Tomika leave the funeral

Mental illness in the black community is real

I made this whole scenario up with Tomika and Will based on other stories I’ve heard, however, scenes like this play out all the time with funerals and sometimes weddings. An abuser, abuses. That’s what abusers do.

The target on the receiving end of the abuse will always remember the emotions from the abuse.

The abuser never remembers because it’s just another life in the day. Once the abuser has gotten the abuse out of his/her system he/she is finished with it. If the target brings it up later the abuser doesn’t understand.

As far the abuser is concerned it’s over. They feel better and that’s all that matters. “so why are you still crying about it?”

Responses to Adult Survivors of Child Abuse who dare to speak up are as follows:

These are the words adult survivors of child abuse hear every single day from those who don’t understand the difference between discipline and flat out abuse. And from those who choose believe that the abuse never occurred and you just made it all up.

Child abuse is no laughing matter. But in the black community it’s a mere joke and hazing children is taken as a given if you are black.

“Cant you ever be happy?”

The healing process from child hood abuse is mentally and physically draining. Especially if someone is dealing with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder while having an additional problem processing what happened. A phrase like this said to someone who is suffering from continued depression and maybe having suicidal thoughts is cruel, insensitive and horrible.

“I don’t want to hear about this I want to hear only happy things”

This is the problem. Someone is in pain crying out for help and this kind of a nonsense response is what they get? Not wanting to talk about the real problem and masking it behind a curtain of false faces. At what point do you deal with reality? Never?

“I don’t let people into my space who bring negativity”

Anybody saying this is the one who is negative. The person saying this is already full of negativity and mentally unbalanced. Addressing an issue that needs to be addressed is not bringing in negativity. It’s simply addressing an issue. People who say these things cannot deal with reality and will quickly diss you with no warning because they are messed up in the head.

“get over it already”

This is insensitive, cruel, evil, idiotic, and it is an abusive statement. If anyone says this to you don’t ever speak to them again. Cut all ties. People who say this do not care about you, your feelings, or even want to hear what you have to say. They are selfish. They choose to degrade you to make themselves bigger.

“Grow up”

This is condescending and how you would speak to a child or a young teen. This is not how you speak to an adult in pain. The person who says this is usually the one that needs to grow up. This person is insensitive, a bully, and uses this statement as a means to not only put you down and make you feel bad but they want to control and be evil.

“Pray about it”

This is angering, stupid, and hurtful. Telling a survivor of child abuse to pray about it is totally ignorant. The person saying it truly knows no better and thinks they are helping. In reality “pray about it” is just throwing fuel into the fire.

“you were such a brat”

This is such a lovely thing to say to someone who is still dealing with mental cruelty inflicted upon them. Flat out evil and wrong.

“Every family has a little drama”

This is a passive statement to downgrade or demean a serious situation. So being raped and placed in a hospital with internal injuries is just a little drama? Broken arms or tied to the back of a car during a family outing and water thrown on a kid is just a little drama?

“don’t you think it’s time you just forgive”

no where in the bible does it say forgive and forget. Nor does it address mental issues that lead to the inappropriate incidents

“you should try to have tried to work it out”

abusive parents are mentally ill and have no idea that what they are doing is wrong. Exactly how to you work that out with somebody who is not capable of understanding what you are saying?

“that’s over with by now why are you still mad”

This is the most infuriating, evil, ignorant, sorry statement any individual can possibly make. This statement alone is why mental illness is rampant in the black community. This is like telling a soldier “Hey buddy you’re out of battle now so why are still crying about it”

Post Traumatic Stress disorder is not just for soldiers. Its for anybody who has faced almost being killed either by someone else, natural disasters, war, abuse, or any situation that was out of their control where someone was killed or ended up dead and they survived.

“Your (parent) wasn’t that bad you are just over sensitive”

Yeah you’re right. Public humiliation and the aftermath of being made a target where me or someone else was physically injured for no reason mentally and physically is just being over sensitive. Yeah you’re right. Abused kids should just take it a shut up. You’re right.

“don’t get mad at others just because you had a bad Dad/Mom”

Please shut up

“why didn’t you just ask your dad/mom to apologize for what he did”

This is somebody who just doesn’t get it. Abusers feel they have the right to abuse. They feel they are justified in their abuse. Why on earth would someone who feels they’ve done nothing wrong apologize?

“Your father wasn’t the problem. It was you”

If you were not there and did not see what happened then what do you know? Shut up. Please!

After the funeral Tomika feels the following

Relief!! She said what she had been wanting to say to all the faces that turned away from her during her time of sorrow and abuse. She and Will transferred the energy back to where it belonged.

Going to that funeral and taking a stand jump started the rest of their healing process. Now they can continue life and thrive. The miserable mother and grandparents do not matter.

How Tomika and Will felt before the funeral

My parents were supposed to protect me and instead they abused me
Each time I looked for them to comfort me they hurt me
Each time I cried for help I was silenced with a slap
My parents abandoned me emotionally and did not give me the proper guidance I needed
Beating me black and blue did not prepare me for the world
Why me?
What was the point?
Did I really deserve a broken arm just because I moved a rug away from the closet door?
Other family was supposed to protect me when my parents could not?
The school, church, friends and family let me down by knowing I was being hurt and not lifting a finger to help!

Child abuse is a form of abandonment

When a parent abuses the child they are abandoning the child’s feelings and right to happiness. They are taking away from that child a desire to be loved.

Forcing a child to live this way just because its tradition is wrong. Using Bible verses against a child to condone the abuse inflicted upon him/her is wrong.

These churches need to wake up!

After the Funeral the Family says this about Tomika and Will

Shame and blame
1. She’s not supposed to air dirty family laundry in a setting like that. She should have addressed this while he was alive.
2. If there is family problem then the family was supposed to solve it.
3. Had she just prayed about it Jesus would have made it stop.
4. They were just bad kids
5. She was the problem. She just kept it up all these years. She could have worked it out with him if she wanted to

They still don’t want to listen. The mental illness of the father is still not admitted even in death. Tomika and Will were the targets of abuse and they are still being blamed for being abused.

Once family members act like this the trust is broken and live it lost.

In a case where someone has been abused and blamed for the abuse sometimes it is best to do just what Tomika and Will did. Cut all contact. Keeping in contact with toxic people who only want to continue victimizing you is never a good idea.

What does the Bible say about mental illness?

The Old Testament is in high favor of punishing, killing, hurting and maiming mentally ill people. They are referred to as wicked, perverse, devils, demons and basically “God-Haters”.

The New Testament offers some relief to mental illness with the works of Jesus. Again the mentally ill are referred to as having “Devils” or being ridden with “Demons”. Jesus casts out the “Devils” from the mentally ill but we have no idea what the problem really was.

Schizophrenia? Seizures? Bipolar? Manic Depressant? Depression? Suicidal thoughts? Anti-Social Personality Disorders? Extreme Autism? Addicts? We have no idea. Some Bible verses explain the condition well enough for us to guess the disease.

Pslams does an excellet job ad describing sociopaths and psychopaths.
Psalm 58 Do ye indeed speak righteousness, O congregation? do ye judge uprightly, O ye sons of men? Yea, in heart ye work wickedness; ye weigh the violence of your hands in the earth. The wicked are estranged from the womb: they go astray as soon as they be born, speaking lies. Their poison is like the poison of a serpent: they are like the deaf adder that stoppeth her ear; (pathological liars, sociopaths, anti-social personality disorders)

Psalm 10:15Break thou the arm of the wicked and the evil man: seek out his wickedness till thou find none.

Psalm 31:17 – Let me not be ashamed, O Lord; for I have called upon thee: let the wicked be ashamed, and let them be silent in the grave.

Psalm 11:6 – Upon the wicked he shall rain snares, fire and brimstone, and an horrible tempest: this shall be the portion of their cup.

As much as I enjoy the thought of breaking arms of those who seem bent on evil humanity must understand that these people need help. Not broken arms.

The book of Matthew refers to mental illness and epileptic fits as ‘devils’.

Matthew 15:22 – And, behold, a woman of Canaan came out of the same coasts, and cried unto him, saying, Have mercy on me, O Lord, thou son of David; my daughter is grievously vexed with a devil. (read this whole passage and you will see her daughter suffers from epilepsy)

Matthew 11:18 – For John came neither eating nor drinking, and they say, He hath a devil.

Luke 4:33 – And in the synagogue there was a man, which had a spirit of an unclean devil, and cried out with a loud voice, (extreme schizophrenia)

And verses like Romans who address perverseness and clearly state that they were not healed. They were left to themselves.

Romans 1:24 – Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:

As much as I enjoy the thought of breaking arms of those who cannot and will not adhere to societal rules and those who seem bent on evil I cannot do it! These people need help, not broken arms.

If you say you are a Christian to God then why don’t you want to address mental illness. Why would you say one thing in favor of God and do the exact opposite?

1 Corinthians 10:21Ye cannot drink the cup of the Lord, and the cup of devils: ye cannot be partakers of the Lord’s table, and of the table of devils.

Simply put – The Slave and the Slave Master cannot serve the same God!

 

 

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August 8, 2017 · 6:00 am

Behind The Curtain – Child Abuse In The Black Community Section C and D

Part 2 Section C & D

Unaddressed mental illness in the black community

Definition of Child Abuse: when the punishment does not fit the crime.
Example. Susie receives a ‘black eye’ because she asked for a ‘cookie’.
Definition of beating: a punishment or assault in which the victim is hit repeatedly:
Definition of hit: bring one’s hand or a tool or weapon into contact with (someone or something) quickly and forcefully: strike, slap, smack, spank, cuff, … more
• cause harm or distress to:
• an instance of striking or being struck: blow, thump, punch, knock, bang
• an instance of striking the target aimed at:
Definition of repeatedly: over and over again; constantly: synonyms: frequently, often, again and again, over and over (again), time and (time) again,
Definition of punishment:1. the infliction or imposition of a penalty as retribution for an offense: “crime demands just punishment” synonyms: penalizing, punishing, disciplining, retribution, retributive justice,
Definition of assault: 1. a violent physical or verbal attackb
2. 2 law a : a threat or attempt to inflict offensive physical contact or bodily harm on a that puts the person in immediate danger of or in apprehension of such harm or contact — compare battery 1bb : rape 2

Instigators of child abuse in the black community
A Church
B Grandparents
C Tradition
D Acceptance
E Parental drug use
F Media

Cultural, Tradition, and Acceptance

It is widely accepted in the black community that children are to be seen and not heard. Children are to be beat and told not to cry. Children are to be disciplined swift, hard, and quickly. Why is this?

1. We are told that this comes from slavery
2. We are told that what the slaves went through is far worse than anything now so we have nothing to cry about
3. We are told if I don’t beat you now the police will do it later so it’s a necessary evil that I get you straight now
4. It’s what is expected and if you don’t beat your kids then you are ‘acting white’
5. Mental illness is not recognized, thought about or even an option. If the child is suffering from an undiagnosed mental illness and the parent decides to beat the child to make him act right, then this is a recipe for certain disaster
6. It’s not just physical abuse on black children. Mental, verbal, and spiritual abuse comes with it.
7. After the abuse gets out of hand and a parent is in jail the first words out of their mouth is “I didn’t think I was doing anything wrong.” or “I was just doing what was done to me. I didn’t know anything else.”

Just because it was done to you doesn’t make it right. For those of you who think you turned out fine I’m here to tell you that you didn’t. You are continuing and reinforcing hurt and harm to innocent children all in the name of tradition.

These following statements are culturally accepted in the black community and should not be:

1. I got beat too when I was a kid.

What is the definition of beat? Black eyes? Blood drawn? Broken bones? Death? Is this kind of beating on a child okay with you?

2. Those bruises will heal.

This is cruel.

3. You shouldn’t have done it.

Maybe nothing was done! Maybe the child simply asked for school supplies.

4. They had to beat you otherwise you won’t learn.

Learn what? How to duck and dodge? How to take it like a G? How to apply make up for black eyes?

5. That’s the only way black kids learn is through a beating.

This comes straight from slavery out of the slave master’s mouth and he’s still talking in 2017. Shut the slave master up by not repeating these words.

6. So what. Grow up.

This is just hurtful, awful, and unless you know the situation you need to shut up.

7. Stop the whining and toughen up you’re too soft and sensitive.

Really? Only an insensitive self serving jerk would make an awful statement such as this to a child that’s been beaten, raped and possibly tied up in a basement.

8. Everybody gets hit why should you be any different.

Hit? This statement is an awful thing to say to anybody. Not all children need to be hit.

9. (my all time favorite) If they didn’t love you they wouldn’t beat you.

Again. Define the meaning of beat. Its okay for a child to be taken to a hospital with internal injuries from a beating. Its okay for a child to die from internal injuries to the heart or lungs because she wet the bed? This is done out of love?

10. Be good and act right and you won’t get beat. Now shut up and get out of my face.

Just cruel, evil, disrespectful, awful, and anybody who says this to a child needs a head check and deserves the worst of every aspect in their life.

11. I’m not here to be my child’s friend. I’m here to be a parent!

Then be a parent! A real parent strives to improve the child not break him down to the point where he’s hanging himself in a closet. A parent and an abuser are two different things. A parent finds ways to work through the situation without placing hands on the child in a bullish disrespectful manner.

12. I didn’t know I was doing anything wrong.

Really? You are in a court room with a lawyer, judge, jury, court tv cameras and DFCS is at the table across from you. And you seriously didn’t know beating a child senseless would lead to this?

14. Fear equals respect. I have to instill fear in my child otherwise he/she won’t respect me.

No fear equals hate. Your child hates you and will eventually run away and rightfully so. Whoever told you that lie should be charged right along with you for being stupid enough to make a statement such as this.

15. I got beat when I was a child and I turned out fine.

No you didn’t. You continued the abuse on to your child and grandchild and at some point this abuse will backfire badly. You may not get the immediate effects but your children will.

The above statements are heard every single day by several black children of parents who either just don’t know any better or just don’t care. 

If a child has a mental condition such as Asperger’s, or some other autism, and the parent does not recognize the signs that the child may have a problem, then the child hears one or more of these statements above.

“He’s just bad! He’s a bad child!”

No child is bad. A behavioral problem in a child is due to a few factors.

1. Environment such as abuse.

2. A mental disorder that has gone unchecked

3. A perfectly normal child responding badly to a parent who is not in his or her right mind

4. Outside stress not coming from within the house.

It should not be acceptable in any community to “Haze” a child as if its a right of passage to be black. Parents who whip, beat and stomp their children in the name of love are not showing love. They teach the child mistrust and how to hate. Why and how are the two being confused?

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August 5, 2017 · 6:00 am